It’s easy to know when a man is hitting on you, right? He’s super friendly, compliments your appearance, and maybe even asks you out right away.
But here’s the problem – a lot of guys don’t take that approach. Especially if they’re your friends, your co-workers, casual acquaintances, friends of friends, businesspeople, that sort of thing. Guys are uneasy about being so blatantly sexual with women, not only because rejection hurts, but also because they don’t want to feel like one of those creepy Internet guys that ask for “nudes” and come across as obnoxious pervs!
A man may feel sexual attraction to you, but because of various social rules, he might not feel he has the right to tell you that. Maybe he wants to wait for a better time to ask you out. Maybe he thinks the two of you should talk more before he initiates romance.
In fact, here’s what’s probably happening IF there’s a guy out there that secretly likes you but is going undercover as your “friend”.
He’s waiting for YOU, to give him a signal that you like him, that you’re sexually attracted to him to. That way, he won’t feel like he’s harassing you or stomping all over your friendship.
Naturally, you don’t want to be rejected either and find out the hard way that, NO, he didn’t like you at all. That’s understandable. Everyone’s a little nervous about making the first move.
Here’s my advice. Look for signs that he’s interested in you, in conversation and in body language. After you see several of these secret signs, then you can plan your next move.
1. He doesn’t just look at you, he stares at you.
His stare may be blatant, or it may be subtle (especially if he’s checking out your assets) or it might even be awkward and weird. He might even spy on you from across the room and “run away” if you catch him looking. The point is, friends look at you on occasion to communicate. Men who are attracted to you stare. They can’t help it. They look at what they want.
2. His body language comes “closer” to you.
Not only does he move nearer to you, (closer proximity) but his feet, arms and head all seem to face you. He lingers around you, even if the conversation seems to be over. He might even start touching you in a “platonic” way, using any excuse to come closer and interact. His touching seems a little unusual, outside the comfort zone of established contact. He’s taking a chance and hoping you’ll reciprocate.
3. He brags about himself, overtly or in subtle ways.
A guy who wants you will always be ready to toot his own horn if he thinks you’re interested in him. If he starts talking about his past adventures, funny stories, skills, hobbies, or career, he’s hoping something about him makes you swoon.
4. He reaches out to you over and over again.
He won’t leave you alone! Of course, he spaces out his text messages, phone calls and emails so as not to appear too desperate. But if you go too long without sending a new message or keeping the existing conversation going, he’ll make the first move. He doesn’t want you to forget what a great guy he is!
5. He wants to entertain you.
Not only does he brag about himself, but he also makes sure to give you his full attention. He’s not distracted by his cell phone. He’s not talking to other people at the party. He’s not even paying attention to his surroundings – just you. He might even be telling you stories, or jokes, or anything interesting to keep your attention. He wants to relate to you, to draw you out in conversation, and to do most of the talking. Simply put lots of weird interaction from a guy, let’s say 99% of the time, means he likes you.
6. Awkward tension.
The more a man wants to sleep with you, the more awkward tension he feels. He’s obviously thinking about you, checking you out, and thinking of ways to impress you. That shows, because he seems “distracted” when he interacts with you. There may be more awkward silences between the two of you or points in the conversation where he can’t think of something to say but speaks anyway.
If a man is naturally confident around women, you might feel any awkward tension. But if this is the case, pay attention to his “awkward” stare, or his lingering smile.
7. He grooms himself and takes his appearance seriously.
Expect him to dress up if he anticipates seeing you. He may also be clean shaven and with trimmed nails. If he sees you by surprise, he usually grooms himself subconsciously, pulling on his collar or shirt, or adjusting other articles of clothing. He may also have various nervous ticks, such as grabbing the back of his neck or touching his face when he speaks.
8. He hints at his availability.
You didn’t ask but did you know his schedule tomorrow? This kind of signal can go from very obvious (“Hey what are you doing tomorrow?” to strangely subtle, as in “Hey, a lot people don’t know I’m single!” or even “I was thinking of asking this girl out since I didn’t have any plans Saturday”).
In a man’s mind, he thinks that if he announces his availability for dating or flirting, you might pick up on it. Don’t be surprised if he brags a little bit about other women too, since he wants to test your jealousy.
Once you see these signs and he remains friendly and attentive, it’s time to start sending him more blatant signals. Start to flirt with him a little and see how it goes. Encourage him to be more dramatic and upfront with his attractions. Soon he’ll learn that the harder he works for your attention, the more you reward him. Break him out of his shy routine and unleash the dashing, romantic hero inside!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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