Let’s play devil’s advocate for a moment and entertain the idea of “real” soul mates. The belief is that your soul mate is predetermined for you, that the name of your true love has already been chosen. That you’re a perfect match and that you complete each other. You can’t even complete your mission in life, your reason for being, until you meet this other person.
It gets weirder…according to the stars, this soul mate may be in disguise and you may not even be attracted to them at all. At least, when you first meet. But eventually, a mysterious force brings you together showing the two of you that you’re meant to be together.
Like Sleepless in Seattle, remember that movie?
It seems like the mythical idea of a soul mate is less romantic and more chaotic than anything else. In reality, what you want is a man who’s attractive, successful, and considerate. A man that’s not just in control of his life and destiny, but one whose life is only enhanced and made even more wonderful than it already is by meeting you.
So what you actually feel when you meet your soul mate, is not that the stars have aligned and brought you the one you need. Rather, you’ve found “the one”—your one true love that matches you, that you feel completely satisfied with, sexually, emotionally, intellectually and even spiritually. It’s not just a partner you like, but the one partner you really connect with and feel a profound sense of peace and trust when you’re with him.
This is why the more realistic “soul mate” is what you want. Someone you meet that you choose, and they choose you. Your love is made stronger because you both want to be there, you never feel obligated. You find comfort in each other and forsake all others because no one else could ever compare to the happiness you have now.
Wouldn’t you love to meet someone that perfectly matched? Or maybe you do have someone like that…who you might be in love with.
If you have a boyfriend right now but are not quite sure if he’s the one true love or if you’re waiting for someone else…then maybe it’s time to analyze the situation objectively. Here are 6 signs you ARE with your soul mate, that is, your true love and will probably never meet anyone better…because you know, deep down, he is the best match for you.
1. The timing is right.
It is often said that soul mates have “crossed paths before”. In another life, maybe? Maybe…or maybe it was this life. It’s actually fairly common for couples that love each other to “know of each other” for years before actually dating. The timing may be off when you first meet. However, maybe years later you finally find yourselves in the same place. Now, all that trust you built over the years is still there and circumstances have changed. Now you feel strong attraction for each other because you’ve combined the world of “friend” and “lover” and have a much more powerful connection. The secret is, you simply were good friends before you got together romantically.
2. You can talk all night or can comfortably share silence.
Soul mates are so closely connected they feel comfortable in each other’s presence, both when they talk for hours in bed, or even when they sit on the couch doing their own thing. If you can enjoy silence in each other’s company while still feeling the love between you, that’s a precious bond indeed.
3. You know what he’s thinking and feeling.
Maybe you’re not a mind reader, but you can anticipate his thoughts, and you can always feel what he feels. You sense his anger before he says it. You can just hear the joke he’s fixing to say even before he says it, because you know his sense of humor so well. You feel his sadness and feel his exuberance when he’s happy. You’re soul mates because you know each other so well and you love the person you’ve learned.
4. You’re not blind to each other’s faults…you accept them. Sometimes you even see the benefit in them.
Everyone has flaws. But when you’re soul mates you understand why a person is flawed (based on his upbringing, his past, his genetics, etc.) and you accept him for what he is. Even more so, you learn that he wouldn’t be the man you love without these flaws. You can see the benefit in them, even though you still see the darkness that threatens his happiness. For example, let’s say he pushes himself too hard. It’s good to have a high work ethic and to love his job. You give him credit for that. But sometimes he just needs that tap on his shoulder to let him know that he needs a break. You can reject his flaws but still love him for who he is.
5. You have the same life goals and it’s not going to change.
Your goals are completely in sync. You can’t imagine living any other life than the one you’re planning and neither can he. That’s true compatibility because partners who fall out of love with each other want very different things in life. They grow apart because their goals differ and their actions to reach those goals transform who they are. When partners are “destined” to stay together they find comfort in pursuing the same goals. This lifestyle is a comfort and the daily routines revolve around this lifestyle. You find comfort in the fact that these values, these goals, do not change. That’s the kind of love that never fades when you are soul mates in purpose.
6. If you could go back in time, you would still fall in love all over again.
It’s odd to think that some couples get together by pure chance, happenstance as they call it. One text message, one conversation in a grocery store, one random meeting. And given that half of all marriages end in divorce, with confused children and tremendous financial loss, you have to wonder how many couples would go back in time and take back that one mistake.
But the true test of a couple’s love is honestly saying that even if they got to go back in time and do it all over again – including the bad times, the great times, the triumphs and setbacks – they would still marry each other all over again. They would take nothing back, except maybe to treat each other even more kindly and not worry so much.
That’s when you know you’ve someone truly special and perhaps even your soul mate that you were destined to fall in love with. When you have no regrets and know 100 percent that you will always choose HIM over an alternate universe life that would be completely different. You don’t choose the mystery door…because you crave excitement. You choose what you know, the man you truly love above all others.
What if “true love” could happen in four, simple steps?
Too good to be true? That’s what I thought, too.
Until I heard this story about an old woman from Prague…
When you think about lasting, life-long love… when you imagine passion that burns for decades… when you dream about a man who adores you…
… You probably don’t think about cobblestone streets in Eastern Europe. Or scientists with beakers and white lab coats.
But this weird story from Prague may be the secret to love that never ends. See for yourself:
If you’ve ever wanted your man to worship the ground you walk on, this is worth ten minutes of your time.
(I couldn’t put it down.)
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23 thoughts on “6 Signs You’re with Your Soulmate”
My husband is unlike any other man I’ve ever met! The usuals just do not work on him! He isn’t interested or turned on by the things 99% of men are. I try to text him little “interest arousers” all the time and he’s like,”Meh” I could show up in nothing but a trench coat, he wouldn’t care. It’s not that he doesn’t like to be sexual either. He is an incredibly gifted and giving lover, but in 13 years, I have yet to find out a single fantasy or something that I could have in my arsenal as a go-to move. He also will not ever accept if I try to initiate. Not once in all of this time. I don’t get it, I see guys say all the time online how they wish their girl would initiate once in awhile so they know she really wants it/him too.
I’ll admit though, I’ve been cursed with a high sex drive that never falters, even after 13 years with the same man and only him. Many men say they want a girl like me, but only because they know they’re likely to never find one. We’re like a unicorn, mythical and he knows he’s actually more likely to find a unicorn, so it’s safe to claim he wants a girl like me. The reality of it is we emasculate men without ever even trying because, heaven forbid, he’s found that her drive is actually HIGHER than his.I’ve even thought about trying something to decrease my drive, but that just feels SO wrong! So many women don’t want it at all, but they do want to want it, & I feel lucky not to have issues with that at all. I could easily go twice a day(or more, if it’s an interesting day, I like spontaneity) but I’m realistic, hell, I’d be happy with 3 times a week, but I’d be over the moon if I could manage to get him to want me daily.
I’m at my wit’s end! No books or programs can ever help me because he’s so different, but he’s like many other *true* alphas in many other ways. He’s just confusing as all get out.
Sorry, I’m just rambling on…. I was just kinda hoping you’ve run across other men like mine that have broken the mold, so to speak, in all your experience doing this.
Ruby I am in the same situation as you. My husband is the same as yours. I have a high sex drive and his is like nothing. I would be very happy to have sex even once a week. I am lucky if i get it once every other week. I also dont understand him, as a girl growing up you always hear how horny men are. Then you get married and it is like everything you ever heard was a lie. I have been with my husband for 19 years, he has always been the same way.
Maybe he is a Porn addict.
Mine was. We used to have an amazing sex life then nothing. He was eating junk food. Had nothing left for the real thing.
Hello Rae white,
You mentioned that ur Ex was a sex addict and that’s crossed my mind many times about my man bc I could feel he was hiding something and being secretive without even knowing, mostly I believe, but he was acting that way mainly bc his Ex caused him to be insecure about himself and was scared to communicate with me bc he thought I would judge or worse, leave him. Can you tell me things ur Ex did that led you to finding out he was or is a sex addict?
Ty for ne help u can provide.
Why are you still with your husband?
I was married to a man like that for 17 years. After much counseling I left. He was in denial about being gay.
Hey there I am in a similar situation..but learned to be patient and let him come to me and concentrate on true intamacy and forming an emotional bond with him..our love life is deeper and we feel connected more now than ever before
I’m with a guy who says I’m the most amazing, caring, loving, and compassionate woman he’s ever known.
When we make love he’s always telling me I’m a fantastic lover. My problem is he’s set in stone that he doesn’t want to any kind of commitment. I’m confused, he calls me 2/3 times a day. He comes to see me every day. He talks about our future and trips he wants to go on together. So what’s up with him.
I’m in the similar situation
Mary, sounds like you have a disrespecting friend there. If he doesn’t want to marry you, I suggest you leave him and find someone who will commit or look online for counselors who will give you tips on how to make a man commit. But in my opinion, if he doesn’t want to commit, drop him. Good luck and God Bless
I was in that similar situation too, but we just broke up, but I understand what you are saying, but if marriage is what you want, you won’t get that with him.
Ruby, my relationship is like yours. Although my better half and I are not married, we have known each other for 18 years and have recently been able to get together. For the first half of our relationship, sex was great! Both of us initiating it a couple times a day, and then to nothing. My drive is extremely high, and I have chosen to take long walks in the early morning, or late at night to calm myself down. I don’t know what to do anymore, except to work my tail off to keep my mind off my sexual desires and fantasies about my partner. Any ideas?
I hear every day that he loves more than anyone in the world but if I don’t give up my guy friends that we can’t be together it’s not that I won’t give them up he won’t give up his 350 girls as friends on Facebook so why should I I’m at alo and believe the name calling is out he calls me a scum bag
Lkru, why do you want to be with someone who calls you a “scumbag”? Or calls you any put-down name at all? That is not how someone who loves you would want to treat you. He is the one who is a scumbag. Let him have his 350 online girlfriends. Find yourself someone who treats you with respect. He’s not that one
Lkru, you are with a narcissist.
I’m falling in love with a man who has another woman living with him. He said he has nothing for her and comes to me for his attention needs. We work together and get along perfectly. But cant understand why she won’t leave. She even knows about me. Dont understand . I’ve been told he’s a player I’ve tried many times to walk away but like a magnet we are pulled together. He doesn’t want me to stop seeing him. But no commitment.
If he really truly cared about you he would take your feelings into consideration. Its seems to me he want both of you around for different reasons and he is a player and a lair. His playing the victim card when he is the one cheating and Being dishonest with both of you . If I were you I would give him an ultimatum and say it’s either me or her. If he says she doesn’t want to leave than his just playing games and you need to leave him.
My husband and I dated back in Jr high school and then parted ways fora good 20 plus years, we reconnected in Facebook and talk for hours on end. He asked me to come down to visit and that was 5 years ago we’ve been married for 3years now so I believe in soul mate.
Gound out she had a guilty conscience an was a prostitute at a massage place. So she looses out. All her guy friends ask me what i did to her an all i could say was she finally had a real man an real love an neither one of us knew what to do. So were done even though one thing was asked for all forgivness, honesty
I still believe in marriage before sex
I’m with my soul mate i really do believe. He was 17 and i was 16 years of age, went to the same hi school. He went to the Army after graduation and i went to California working for the Police and Fire department. After 30 long years of no communication i returned home, where we both lived. I was driving this U-haul truck, and who did i run in to, the love of my life. I immediately put the truck in park and ran into his arms and embraced him tight. He had been married, but I never married. I strongly believe I’m with my soul mate because we’re still together. The love we have for each other is overwhelming. When we hurt each other, we feel each other’s pain. He’s now 64 yrs old and I’m 63 and we still love each other like we just met. We have a lot of history together but this guy i love unconditionally, there’s nothing he won’t do for me and vice versa. We gets sick when we argue, fuss and fight. I know he loves me because i can feel his love and he can feel my love. Tell me if this guy is truly my soul mate.
Evelyn if he is then you are now married each other right? wow happy you met your soulmate
Paula, try a real discussion with him about it. He may need testosterone. But, if you don’t get him some help, maybe counciling. It won’t change, and you’ll be stuck, unhappy.