We are living in a new age of cyber-romance and virtual love, aren’t we? With so many new apps for dating, as well as multiple social tools to stay in touch, we never really have to say goodbye.
Just think of how many advantages we have in modern society, now that we don’t have to take months to write letters or wait years just to schedule an in-person meeting. With the miracle of webcams, instant chat, photo sharing and VOIP telephones, we can make a virtual connection with anyone in the world, free of charge.
Well maybe not anyone…I still think Scarlett Johansson is fairly difficult to get a hold of on the phone.
The point is, relationships are a tad easier now that instant communication is openly available to us. Now that said, of course the lack of physical presence is going to be frustrating. It’s all the more frustrating if you’ve never met each other but have fallen in love. Some say it’s even more difficult when you have met in person, and perhaps made love, but now have to say goodbye and go back to Internet dating.
Make no mistake, waiting is no easy game. But sometimes it’s necessary because of family obligations, travel arrangements, business and career, or just because you have very different lives that aren’t compatible right now. Maybe someday your lives will intertwine physically…but for today, there’s only the Internet!
But maybe it’s not going to be as hard as you thought. Not just because you have this technology, but also because online dating is a great opportunity for getting to know each other on a much deeper level. Some people who cyber-date, actually become intellectually and “soulfully” connected, even better than those who date exclusively in person.
Why? Probably because when you’re separated by thousands of miles, physical lust doesn’t characterize the relationship. You talk about more things. You pique each other’s minds. You can talk for hours and connect emotionally – and yes, sometimes connecting so deeply is better than sex!
So don’t fret the next few months, even if it seems like a long time. Take heart in some of these great long-distance relationship quotes, that prove that real love and happiness is all about minds melding together and not just physical attraction.
1. “Can miles truly separate you from friends? If you want to be with someone you love, aren’t you already there?”– Richard Bach
Great quote and the perfect variation on the half full / half empty perspective of life. To an unhappy person, a long distance relationship is a trial, an injustice and a miserable waiting period.
But to someone who truly appreciates you, this IS the relationship. You are dating “in real life.” And these precious moments you spend together are going to be some of the best memories of your life. The conversations you have are amazing. Every new chat is another revelation. If you are in love, then you are “already there…” and you’re not waiting. This is the conversation you would be having if you were together in person. This is the precious moment you are sharing in the Now.
2. “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”– Helen Keller
What a great quote and all the more so if you know who Helen Keller was. Just because you can’t see your lover in person or touch them does not mean your love is suffering.
You feel them in your heart. When you chat, or talk on the phone, you love deeper. You yearn for each other and so what you have together becomes even more intense. Love is all about intensity and feeling each moment, with your heart and mind involved. Physical interaction is the icing on the cake.
3. “I love when I reach Marcus on the phone and as he says hello, I can hear the music he’s listening to in the background. That music is the sound of him without me. How he surrounds himself when I’m not there, which is almost all the time.”– Megan McCafferty
This quote is a good reminder that the both of you exist independently of each other and there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, both of you should enjoy your independence and seek to preserve this independence, even when the two of you get together in person later on. Don’t demand that you do everything together…take pride, take an interest, in who your partner is when they live life apart from you. It makes for great conversation; discussing your independent goals, what you like to do when you’re alone, and things you look forward to doing day-to-day, in the “Now.”
Discussing the independent things, the differences in your lifestyle, actually makes for great and stimulating conversation. Rather than cry over what cannot immediately be, take pleasure in what is…and share all these experiences with your partner.
4. “Distance makes the heart grow fonder.” – Thomas Haynes Bayly
You’ve probably heard this quote before but it bears repeating because it’s actually much deeper than we realize at first glance. Yes, distance makes us miss the person we love.
But did you know, that when it comes to a man, giving him the “gift” of missing you actually helps to intensify the feelings he already has have for you? This is important to remember in early dating and courtship. If anything, you want to give him “some distance” rather than trying to spend every waking moment with him.
Letting him miss you reminds him that he wants you, that you’re worth waiting for, and that he must earn your attention and your commitment over time. When you see each other every day you may start to take things for granted.
It’s actually one of the challenges of a long-term relationship, learning how to fall in love every day even though you’re going through a routine. So don’t “rush” into a commitment just because you feel an intense connection. There will be plenty of time for in-person interaction later. Enjoy this opportunity for what it is: missing each other and realizing that you DO want to spend the rest of your life together when the time is finally right.
Make His Heart Crave You Even If You’re Far Away
Let’s face it, most long distance relationships are hard… and most of them don’t even last 5 months.
What if the distance could actually make you feel closer together?
What if you could make him miss and crave you, even when you’re far apart?
Most women actually push a man further away in a long distance relationship when they want to make him come closer.
There’s one thing you need to do to be different… to make your relationship last… to make this situation bring you closer together… to make him value and crave you, even if he’s far apart from you.
Want to know what it is?
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Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. If you want to make his heart crave you, no matter how far away you are from him… do this…
I lost love of my life. Last 5 days he do not contact with me.
Just watch out for love scammers. I have been talking to a guy for 6mths.
I have fallen in love with him. But he has now started to ask me for a lot of money. For air tickets 2 times to come to me 2 times something happened so he couldn’t come. Won’t talk on phone or Skype. But it was all normal for 5mths Be love scammers aware.
I got scammed like that. Lost money. Yes beware. They are all over.
Same here was talking to someone for nearly a year. Everything he said was so beautiful and he would send love songs to me….and then he went overseas to Malaysia for work and all of a sudden he was unable to return to Australia as the officials would not let him leave until he payed his accomodation of $5000 and he needed $3500 for a plane ticket back home….I am glad I realised what was happening.
I am happy to say, I had a one year long distance relationship with the love of my life. When you are with whom you are supposed to be with, confident in yourself, things unfold without effort, there really is no separation, build that relationship on trust, intellect, it gets you to where you want to be with the man you want to be with, be patient, respectful, mindful, live your life, don’t stay glued to your phone expecting, live, it all works out in the end
I’ve been having an online relationship with a man for nearly a year and it’s amazing. We have talked about everything and gotten to know more about each other than I ever knew about my ex-husbands. Our talks are more in-depth.
Hi,
Just wondering if you’ve ever met him in real life or face timed. I’ve been chatting on and off to a man for 4/5 years. He knew I was in a relationship for three of those years but now I’m not so he messages me everyday. I don’t want to be catfished or lied to and I’m a little unsure.
Regards Kellie
I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband of 39 years . After 8 months of him being away from me he cheated on me. It broke my heart. Although I forgave him and we went back together 40 years later I found out him cheating was not a drunken mistake but he had a one day love affair. Now I am broken all over again and can’t forgive him. Our marriage is strained now and I no longer trust him
It hurts to find that the one you live has cheated.
A one day “love affair”? I question the love part. Men do stupid things. I’m not saying that what he did was acceptable, not at all.
He chose to stray. For one moment in time.
Then you and he chose to be together. For a very long time.
I think he knew he made the right choice. Some people never get a second chance for happiness.
You’re a warrior and you can make choices too. Be happy.
Lynda! Please rethink the way you are thinking and feeling about this! 40 years of life and love with this man cannot possibly be erased by one day of infidelity! Are you really that insecure? If he has given you his love for so many years why does that one day cause you make yourself miserable? The rules are yours to make and you are making a rule in your mind that because he wasn’t drunk then you are devastated! Why would you do that to yourself or him? Life is short! Love and forgive and value yourself and him, your life , and your love toghther as much as you can!
Hi Lynda, sounds like it was many years ago, so build a bridge and get over it. Surely life is too short to bring up old wounds and dwell on them, thus creating more hurts for yourslef. Remember some happy times with your man, recreate them, and love hime again OR just leave and let him get on with life, free from old hassles. Choose. Cheers.
I am 2 1/2 into a fully committed relationship and recently had to move to a different city for work and study. A lot of the advice here emphasizes waiting for a commitment and being patient. What happens when the long distance happens after the commitment? I do admittedly overthink but the question is, will this weaken what we had?
I began a relationship that seemed like it could be something good. After 2 mts I had to move states to take care of my ailing parent. In the 8 mts I’ve been gone we have moved our relationship to a level I never dreamed we go. At 1st our texts & twice daily calls were mostly about sex…now , we have discussed every topic:movie, love, fear, hope, faith, family, childhoods. I don’t know if we would have done this if I was home. We await being together like teenagers. We try to visit each other once a month. Wow. Things are just WOW
I fell in love with a man who cat fished me i am so broken up about it one day I hope his heart gets as badly broken as mine is
I have a 2 years distance relationship with my optiker whom I can see whenever I want Or I need to fix my glasses.he is divorced has no problem to make a new relationship. But whenever I talk about a kind of real relationship he become silent or just mention that he hasn’t have time for any relationship right now I his life since he has 12 years old son and a 19 years old doughter.he doesn’t reject me at all he is always ready to answer my chatt messages.3 times he showEd that he is very passionate for me while we have not had any reall intercourse i wonder what is this that going between us.can you give me some advice to improve this realationship.will he eventually love me for a serious committment in form of dating and going out together?
A two yr. Long distance relationship. Both of us in our eighties, living 90 miles apart and he can’t drive thru Denver to see me. I went to see him once. He makes me cards and sends small gifts for holidays and birthday. We text and he was calling me but that stopped because of the distance. I like him so much and he likes me, but the distance is killing our relationship. I have no answers do you?
I did not receive a reply to my text. It’s 26 months living apart. Is this 83 yr old man to set in his ways of living alone? His zoadic sign is Cancer..mine is Leo.
Connie- I can definitely understand about the cost of long distance calls. However I am curious if either of you happen to have internet? Because there are plenty of apps that you can use online that will allow you both to talk to each other.
Hi Connie, you guys are only 90 miles apart, that’s pretty close. You could be hundreds of miles or even in another country. What problem with phone calls? You can call anywhere in the country for no cost, it comes with your wireless plan. You don’t pay long distance anymore. Get down to what’s really going on. Listen to your instincts. There are many ways to tell if he’s really interested in pursuing a relationship with you or just stringing you along.
If I were you, I will ask one of us to make a decision to make into the same city. Considering the time that you have left, it will be a waste of time to spend it alone and apart.
Connie after 26 Has nothing to do with rhe Zodiacmonths he’s not interested!
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for over a year and I’ve never been happier in my life. I can feel the love he has me. He is the sweetest man I’ve ever known. He’s always making me feel so special and loved. He makes me feel alive again. In August we’re going to meet for the first time and I’m so happy I finally get to meet him. He’s is truly a man of his word. He tells me everyday how much he loves me and wants to be with me. I never felt as much love as I do from him. I didn’t think it would work but 19 months later we’re so in love and we’re getting married. Distance does make the heart grow fonder
Iam have experience the same thing ! We met on Facebook dateing stie Nov 26 2022 IAM we have had some ups and down ! we got through that! We are still so much in love we set a date for us to meet for the Frist time in march
Of next year ! We are both excited when we will get Embrace each other for the first time
@Kim: I just pray the attraction translates into real life. I’ve “met” men virtually who I felt a connection with almost from the get go. There was amazing conversation, chemistry & our souls were definitely connected. We got to know each other on a deeper level & we experienced true emotional intimacy together. Each time I just knew he could be “the one.” However, unfortunately when we met in person, the attraction I felt didn’t translate into real life. It sounds shallow. But it’s just not something one can control. Either the attraction is there or it isn’t. And physical attraction IS a big deal. Despite what anyone else says. You say you’re getting married, but the two of you haven’t yet met in person. I just pray he’s everything you think he is.
I am seeing this guy at first time we started talking it was really nice and then he would call me in the morning sometimes I would wakeup to 67 missed phone calls from him and I had a problems with my health and it just seem like he was not worried about me but when I would be in the hospital he would began my friend and family that he wanted to talk to me I he would say that he misses me and the that he Love’s me he would ask me about something and if I was not able to help him he would say that I don’t care about him or that I don’t love him and I feel like he is just cat fishing me he keep making stuff up just so he does not have to talk to me I do love him but I don’t know if he feels the same way that I do can you please help me figure out what to do just walk away from him or just keep trying sometimes I have found myself over think thing as well that might be a problem with me to please I am looking for help on how to figure out if it is worth fighting for or just give up
I think you have your answer, Paula…67 missed phone calls is beyond ridiculous, extreme & unhealthy. He sounds like a narcissist & you should run from this man! ♀️
No answer IS an answer. A rude & cowardly one, but an answer just the same. Move on as best as you can, live for yourself & be grateful for the good memories. Never forget that you are beautiful inside & out!
Hi
We fell for each other in person, but there was no confidence between us. It seemed like we were not free to each other and that worried me alot. I wanted the woman who would be my best friend. After six months of dating, I got to move to another area to work and we can now relate alot like never before. Infact the bondage has grown more stronger, as we can miss each other alot. Talk much for long hours and have as much fun as possible. So…I think our relationship is now the BEST. I love you, Lillian.
Until someone cheats!