If you’re new or returning to the dating scene after a hiatus, you may be a little nervous about meeting so many new people all at once. After all, there are a lot of creeps out there and sometimes it’s difficult to tell which ones are just quirky, and which ones are really going to make your life miserable.
So what we’re going to talk about is the worst red flags that men give on dating apps, why they’re a big deal, and why it’s best to just END the conversation as soon as you see them happening.
1. He’s always wearing sunglasses or obscuring his face.
It’s funny as an extra photo, sure. But if the guy has nothing but shaded silhouettes, sunglasses, extreme closeups, or other distracting photos, he is clearly hiding something about his appearance, or at least, his lifestyle.
2. Baby photos…especially if it’s not…his baby?
Unless he’s a devoted father, it’s weird to have baby photos in a single man’s profile. Baby of his best friend? His sister? OK…so apparently he wants to have babies and start a family right away. Probably not too interested in stuff like compatibility or anything…
3. Sexist or cocky statements.
It’s alarming how many guys go for the “big claim” in their profile, insulting women, making cocky or sexist jokes, or trying to disqualify you based on egotistical criteria. Maybe they figure women will reply just to argue with them, but that’s not a great way to start a date, and definitely not to have a real adult relationship.
4. He has a very strange-sounding job title.
A man’s job is sometimes the most interesting thing about him, especially if he loves what he does. So if a man has a weird-sounding job, and yet doesn’t want to talk about it, he is quite possibly making it up. Push him for details just to see if he starts bluffing or admits to lying. Lying is not a great way to start a date.
5. Naked or even half-naked selfies.
Maybe he doesn’t send dick pics, but he always seems to be shirtless in his photos, or taking a photo while looking in the mirror, or accentuating his body in some over-the-top way. This sounds like an invitation for a 15-minute hookup, not even the respect of a one-night stand. Pass.
6. Trying-too-hard to be a nice guy.
Nice guys might be the real deal, but some guys try so damned hard to be perfect, they end up giving themselves away, as a sort of “used car dealer” of dating. Instead of just being cool and relatable (a good thing), they try to “sell you” on the idea that he’s a perfect guy who deserves a great girlfriend. He’s constantly providing evidence of his awesomeness, faithfulness, normalcy, and brilliance. Something’s wrong, folks!
7. Photos…with other girls.
Even I haven’t quite figured out why guys do this, except that maybe they figure providing evidence of all their exes, or platonic girlfriends, or crushes, or you know, people they met at work, is somehow going to qualify them to date the most beautiful women in the world. Only problem is…taking photos of yourself with other people means you HAVE a connection with them. Why bring that to the table? What kind of baggage is he pointing you towards?
8. He spends his entire profile complaining about women, bad dates, broken marriages, or exes.
The world can be a pretty bleak place sometimes, but it’s hard to imagine why you would want to unload all of that on a first date. You know, when people should be all smiles, fun, relaxing, talking freely, that sort of thing.
He may be going through some issues and that’s understandable. But the moment he turns you into his therapist, you lose something special in the relationship. You’re no longer bonding naturally. Now it’s just you taking care of him and unfortunately, that’s all the relationship can ever be.
9. Word abbreviations or ridiculously short sentences.
This is an automatic turn-off for most women (and even some men too!), that being the dopey one-liners, the abbreviated words, the inscrutable slang, and all the other stuff intended to make someone look cool…but that just kind of makes them look really dumb.
Look, nobody’s looking for an astrophysicist on Tinder, OK? But even if all a person wants is a fling, the very idea of being with a total dweeb who has no game or natural chemistry with you, well that’s a big turn-off.
Why not casually date someone smart, interesting, or at least with some good stories to tell? No one wants to date someone that feels that far beneath them in terms of morals, ethics, wisdom, life experience, and so on.
To do so feels cheap, silly, embarrassing, and frankly, it feels like a waste of a condom. Definitely a waste of a six-month attempted relationship. Some guys you just kind of know as soon as you see their terrible one-liner, it’s just never going to work.
10. Party photos…all party photos.
Spring Break photos? Really? References to drug, sex, sports, and gaming in their profile? As a rule, don’t date teenagers…even if they’re an adult going through an identity crisis. It ends exactly how you fear it might.
I know, it may seem extreme to disqualify a guy just because he makes a mistake. But in the long-run, by filtering out the wrong type of guy, you can avoid danger, avoid stalkers, avoid one-night stands that go nowhere, avoid unnecessary drama, and avoid the heartbreak that comes with dysfunctional relationships.
You can really get your “speed date social life” going by filtering out the wrong guys in the beginning and focusing more attention on the guys that pass the first round of tests. These are easy tests, too. Most decent, smart, and intelligent guys are going to pass the first round easily. So be firm, be resolute, and fall in love faster by avoiding trouble when you see it.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…
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