How to Get the Guy You Want In 4 Steps

How to Get the Guy You Want In 4 Steps

If there’s a guy you like and you’re not sure how to get about getting into a relationship with him, here’s what you need to know to get him…

In 4 steps:

1. Get His Attention

If you don’t have his attention, you’re not going to get him. It’s as simple as that.

He has to know you’re there. That’s the first step.

I want to give you a little warning though…

Warning: Attention isn’t attraction.

A lot of women think guys go for the dumb, bouncy girl that gets all the guys’ attention at the bar.

But what they don’t realize is that a lot of those women don’t end up with the guy.


It’s like going to an amusement park, it’s fun for a day or two but eventually you want to leave.

We’ll talk more about how to create long-term potential later in this article.

But realize that attention is important to get but don’t sacrifice your long-term potential for it.

2. Create a Sexual Frame

You don’t want him thinking that this is just a friendship type situation. If you don’t know, I used to be a men’s dating coach…

And one of the biggest fears and frustrations that men have around dating, one of the things that keeps men up at night and makes them want to pull their hair out of their heads…

Is landing themselves in the dreaded friendzone (it’s kind of like the twilight zone of relationships).

For most guys, if he thinks that he’s going end up “just a friend” with you and nothing more, he probably won’t pursue you.

So how do you get around this?

Create what I call a sexual frame.

Here’s how to do it:

Sexualize behaviors you like.

If he does something that you like, tell him that it’s attractive or tell him that it’s hot.

If he opens a door for you, say…

“A gentleman… that’s hot.”

Any time he does something that you like, reward him by telling him that the behavior he did is attractive.

3. Get Him Attracted to You Emotionally

A lot of women try to convince a guy that he should want to be with them.

That never works.

A guy has to feel attracted to you. He can’t be logically convinced of it.

The best way to do this is to connect with your emotions and express how you’re feeling with no expectations.

A lot of times women will say things hoping to get some kind of reaction from him.

You can usually tell this is going on because they’ll say things like, “I told him how I feel and he didn’t act like he cared.”

I have news for you, he’s a guy. And if he’s a masculine guy, a lot of times he’s not going to react in a way that makes sense to you… if he reacts at all.

But even if he doesn’t react, don’t think that he isn’t impacted by you expressing your feeling, even if it’s at a level that he doesn’t consciously recognize.

Remember, you’re not trying to get him to think a certain way, you’re trying to get him to feel a certain way.

And that feeling of connection needs to build over time.

So just express how you feel without expectations. To a guy, this is not drama and is incredibly attractive.


Drama = Expectations = Unattractive

Feelings = Emotional Connection = Very Attractive

Expressing your feelings is not only feminine, it’s very mysterious to a man. Men don’t understand emotions.

They’re beautiful, interesting, and mysterious.

And if you know anything about dating, a little mystery can be very attractive.

4. Show Him That You’re in Alignment With Him

This is the difference between a guy thinking that you’re a casual fling (purely sexual relationship) and him thinking that you have (serious) relationship potential.

He has to see you as someone he could be with in the far distant future, that’s what being in alignment means.

One of the big mistakes that a lot of my clients have made before working with me is focusing on getting a man’s attention while sacrificing alignment.

Many of my clients are models or former models and some of their biggest challenges is getting a guy to want something serious with them because they’ve focused so much on using their looks to attract a guy and that only gets a guy’s attention.

Instead, you’ll want to show a man that you’re in alignment with him, his values, and where he’s going in his life. THIS is what makes him see you as someone he wants a committed relationship with.

Why Sex is Never Enough to Keep a Man Forever

If you’ve ever tried to use sex to “hook” a guy, you know that it doesn’t work long term.

Regardless of how visual a man is or how much men seem like they’re just after one thing…

Sex only keeps a man’s interest for so long…

Are all the good men already taken?

Are men afraid of commitment?

FACT: Over 2 million men get married each year in the USA alone…

The difference between women who end up catching a man’s interest and keeping him interested…

And a woman who ends up going from one dead end relationship to another…

Is that the woman who gets and keeps a guy does one very specific thing that the other woman doesn’t do…

Click here to find out what it is <<

A man won’t chase you…

He won’t pursue you…

And he won’t commit to you…

Unless he feels like you have one very specific thing that makes him feel welcomed into your life…

If this doesn’t exist, he might want something sexual with you but he’ll never feel like you’re “the one” for him.

I created a video presentation to explain exactly what this one thing is and the 3 steps to making him feel this way…

Click here to watch the video <<




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Matthew Coast

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