The One Thing That Proves You’re Meant For Each Other

How do you know if he’s the one? Maybe things are going pretty good. You’re dating…maybe even living together. But when you think about the long-term future, you could still have some doubts. Do most couples feel this way? Doubts? Or maybe even a yearning for something better to come along?

Well, here’s the thing. Couples who are in love are not really “yearning” for something better most of the time. They have bad days, sure. But they don’t have “doubts” about whether they love their partner or not.

They have something special together that feels much different than any fling or FWB situation they’ve had before.

That’s what we’re going to talk about now. The one “thing” that proves 100% that you are soul mates, and he is the one. That’s right, the stuff that proves you’re meant for each other!

Let’s start at the beginning.

What Does Real Love Feel Like?

Real loves, when it starts, feels like a strong connection that you have with someone. It goes far beyond attraction, lust or infatuation. You’re not just attracted to the physical or even the emotional. It’s his mind that’s fascinating. His resonating mind pulls you in.

You don’t just admire him, but you relate to him. You feel like you know him and perhaps have known him your entire life. When he talks about his passions, you get it. You feel his trials. You understand everything that he is.

It’s an almost magnetic attraction. Some people call it a spark that flies when two like-minded souls finally find each other.

Some believe it’s pheromones and that some people just naturally or even chemically attract a certain type of partner. Maybe that’s the case!

One thing’s for sure. It is remarkably easy to bond with this person. Conversation comes natural. You both have mutual respect for each other and a strong interest in getting to learn more.

He also feels the same bond with you. He opens your heart to you, and there’s no holding back.

Likewise, you open up to him and you’re both able to communicate honestly and intimately.

That’s how love starts. If you have this kind of relationship with someone then that’s a promising start.

You might be surprised how many relationships fizzle out after sex, or never even get ignited, when it comes to sexual attraction. There just isn’t any long-term compatibility there and it’s painfully obvious after a while.

This relationship feels different – and it really is almost instant. The compatibility is off the charts and you feel naturally drawn to this guy. The conversation feels natural and your interests are similarly aligned. It feels like a great date – even before you go on a date!

But that’s not where it ends.

Love Grows Over Time

Here’s where things get really interesting. Because many relationships are only made to last until a certain milestone. Like say, after sex. Or after the first couple years of living together. Or, even the seven year itch. These relationships last for a while but over time they become unstable.

Partners grow apart. They may even grow resentful. It feels as if the relationship just peaked and now that the “milestone” was reached, both partners no longer have anything in common. They wanted “that” and since “that” has been completed, it’s time to move on.

But this is not what a loving relationship feels like. A loving relationship, where you know he’s the one, is about a long-term love that grows every day. You care about him. You worry about him. You want to spend most of your time with him.

But besides that, this special connection that we previously discussed, is what motivates you to stay close. It’s not loyalty to an institution. It’s not following the law, or believing in love for the sake of love.

It’s about protecting that special connection you have and doing whatever it takes to keep that going. That’s where love gets real!

Positive Emotions Run the Show

But there’s one more point to discuss. Yes, it’s true that emotional attachment is what defines real love and “proof” that you belong together.

However, isn’t it also true that some of the worst relationships are also characterized by strong emotional attachment?

They are, but dysfunctional or abusive relationships are not about real love.

That just emphasizes the point that the right one and the perfect loving relationship is characterized by positive emotional attachment.

You are “addicted” to each other, but the effect is mutually beneficial. No one is taking advantage of anyone.

Knowing him and loving him makes you a better person. And loving you brings out the best in him. You’re both strong and independent people alone, but when you come together as one you bring the best out in each other.

All the emotional attachment you have, while intensely strong, is not jealous or insecure. It’s not prideful or self-destructive.

You are calmer, more focused in life, and happier because you have a partner that helps you get where you want to be.

How You Know For Sure

You could say that time is the ultimate test of love. As you stay together longer, the idea of leaving or giving up on the relationship just seems insane to both of you. Why would you give up on something that you actively keep so strong?

Keeping the relationship going is almost second nature by now. You avoid angry conflict. You talk things out. You learn about each other and you find new ways to appreciate your partner in life.

It’s not necessarily that you live a whole lifetime and stay faithful till the end.

You actually “know” a lot sooner than that.

You know you’ve met the one when you realize that this relationship is worth preserving, maintaining, and improving. Your love is like a gem worth polishing and that attitude is what makes you 100% sure you will never give up.

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