Susan asked 3 years ago

Just entering into a new relationship with my first love.  We have been friends for a long time.  He always pursued me.  I agreed to start seeing him and “take things slow”.  I’m not exactly sure how to do that.  I have been very nervous…..anxious, analyzing everything to myself, I hate myself when I get like that.  I just want to relax and enjoy.  It feels like he has cooled off a bit and so I forced myself to step back a bit and cool it with the online affection.  How can I just stop and learn how to stop doing this?  Does he feel me struggling?  Will I push him away?

1 Answers
Tabitha Pratt answered 3 years ago

Hi Susan!
Congratulations on the new relationship. It’s OK to feel a bit nervous at this point. It seems that you really like him! Yay! Along with this new venture, it seems that you are also putting extra pressure on yourself. Why? Silly!
Analyzing and overthinking is masculine energy and that is HIS JOB. Here is the kicker; he may pick up on your state change and be repulsed. Think about a magnet. There is a positive and negative pole and that is where the attraction happens. You want to keep magnetizing him through your feminine qualities. Relaxed and happy, IN THE MOMENT, and enjoying him are all yin/feminine. You are on the right track! Keep it up!
P.S. – expressing your nervous and anxious feelings in the exact moment that you feel them is also critical – and also, very vulnerable. Guess what? Males like vulnerability. Specifically a feminine woman’s vulnerability.
Here is to your sweet, soft heart…