How do I get the guy I've been in love with for two years to fall in love with me?

Relationship Questions and AdviceCategory: CommitmentHow do I get the guy I've been in love with for two years to fall in love with me?
Anonymous asked 4 years ago

I need him to take a risk on a long distance relationship. I know he cares about me, but he is a player & is afraid of long distance. He knows I love him & no matter how many times we try to walk away from each other we can’t. How do I get him to be with just me & see what happens?

1 Answers
Matthew Coast Staff answered 4 years ago

Well, most people I know are afraid of long distance relationships. So that should be no surprise. And if you’ve ever been in a long-distance relationship, you know that they are extremely difficult and its hard to get a read on what is going on with the other person.
I know lots of men who are players. Some of them actually like being in long distance relationships because its easy to convince someone you’re just seeing them while you’re actually seeing lots of other people… how is that person you’re seeing going to know? They’re too far away from you.
It sounds to me like you’re creating a situation where you’re probably going to get hurt… Think about it… you want me to tell you how to convince a player to stop seeing other women, fall in love with you, and commit to a long distance relationship with you. You’re just setting yourself up for a hurtful situation.
I don’t want anything to do with this situation and you shouldn’t either. I’m not saying that it couldn’t happen… but from what you’ve told me so far about this situation, you’re much more likely to get yourself hurt than you will ever be to convince this guy to be in a committed, long distance relationship with you.
Why don’t you go and find yourself a great guy who lives near you? Or if you live somewhere with a small population, move somewhere that there are more people. Stop chasing guys who are unavailable and bad for you.
I don’t want to be a part of setting you up so that a man breaks your heart. If you’d like to create a relationship with a relationship oriented man, let me know and I’ll help you.