30 yr old daughter

Teps asked 6 months ago

I have been living with my boyfriend for about 3 years.  Everything was ok in the beginning until his now 30 yr old daughter got pregnant.  BF allowed the daughter and her baby daddy to move in to his house charging them $150 to live there.  He has been paying all utilities including her cell phone bill.  It seems that he feels obligated to support his daughter and her family and she in turn likes to control his life.  She calls him anywhere from 4-7 times a day, texts him constantly and wants to face time during the 2-1/2 y/o’s “tubby time”.  If she calls and wants to do something I get tossed aside.  I feel we are slipping away so I asked him to spend the day.  Go for breakfast then a ride to PA to do some tax free shopping.  He never answered until later that evening stating his daughter called and he is going with her and the grand daughter to something at the kids day care.  I refuse to have anything to do with the daughter after she tried fixing her father up with a “young one” and someone named Susan.  When I confronted him with this, he said she was joking.  I don’t care if she was or not, it’ not a thing to joke about.  Both of us are close to retirement and have been talking about what we plan to do.  At first we were going to move somewhere warmer, now he is saying he wants to put the grand kid on and off the school bus to save daughter day care money!  Seriously???  We talked about this and he has said no more.  In the back of my mind he will blindside me when the time comes.  What can I do?  Should I confront him again or just end it and tell him to go live with daughter & family.  By the way, the house is a complete pigs pen..she does not clean at all!!!