One-itis - Stuck on one guy

Here's a term that we use in the community called "one-itis"... which actually came from the men's dating world.

Basically, it's having a disease of being stuck on one guy... itis is the disease... one being one guy.

If you have one-itis, it means that you're stuck on a guy who isn't behaving the way you want him to be and you're in the world of scarcity dating, where you don't have any options so you want to force and manipulate this man to be the man you want him to be.

If he doesn't act that way, which he isn't, you then try to manipulate or control him because you feel like you really like him or love him, instead of moving on.

Feeling like you really like a guy isn't a good enough reason to stay with him... he needs to love you AND value you... he needs to treat you with respect... he needs to be taking you to the relationship that you want to go to.

If you have one-itis, the cure is to date other people, work on your self-esteem, and get your needs met through others.
 

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Here's a term that we use in the community called "one-itis"... which actually came from the men's dating world.

Basically, it's having a disease of being stuck on one guy... itis is the disease... one being one guy.

If you have one-itis, it means that you're stuck on a guy who isn't behaving the way you want him to be and you're in the world of scarcity dating, where you don't have any options so you want to force and manipulate this man to be the man you want him to be.

If he doesn't act that way, which he isn't, you then try to manipulate or control him because you feel like you really like him or love him, instead of moving on.

Feeling like you really like a guy isn't a good enough reason to stay with him... he needs to love you AND value you... he needs to treat you with respect... he needs to be taking you to the relationship that you want to go to.

If you have one-itis, the cure is to date other people, work on your self-esteem, and get your needs met through others.
Very wellwritten. It is just difficult to face that he has changed so much. The same thing happened with the guy before. It all together took 6 years of nothing in the end.
 
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