Gaslighting And Emotional Abuse

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The #1 Sign That He’s Toxic

You meet a guy and he seems amazing…

But before you know it, things change and he ends up ruining your life with toxic behaviors.

How do you recognize toxic behaviors in a man, at the beginning, before you’re attached?

Here is the #1 sign that he’s toxic…

You feel bad when you’re with him or after you leave him.

Most of your time with a man should leave you feeling uplifted, loved, special, or inspired.

If you feel drained, confused, or exhausted, you may want to question what’s going on with him.

Here’s the rule to remember…

If something feels off, it probably is.

If you want to attract a quality man who loves, sees you, and cherishes you into a committed, lasting relationship…

You need to know how to avoid toxic men FROM THE BEGINNING.

You need to know what attracts quality men.

You need to connect with a quality man in a way that makes him feel like you’re that one special woman that he wants in his life.

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Most women GIVE EVERYTHING to a man and then get taken for granted…

Most men only need a few things. And if you give him everything but he’s not getting those few things, he won’t value and appreciate you.

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But you need to connect with him in the RIGHT WAY.

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Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

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The Biggest Myth About Love

Ignoring a Narcissist Who Ignores You

Have you ever heard the expression “Just ignore the troll and he’ll go away?”

Seems like good advice. Some people are fueled off negative energy. The more you argue with them, the more excited they get to keep the conversation going. It’s a dysfunctional dynamic and yes, narcissists tend to this frequently.

The problem is narcissists are very good at manipulating people to do exactly what they want. If he wants to argue with you, and sees that you’re ignoring him, he will figure out a way to provoke you back into the conversation.

Before you know it, you’re determined to “set the record straight”. Humiliate him. Hurt him. And that’s when your plan backfires.

You know a friend of mine used to tell me that despite the fact that she hated her narcissistic ex-husband, that every time she talked to him, she wound up in bed with him again. She couldn’t figure out why either. Somehow, it always started simple. She just wanted to hurt him, argue with him, prove something…

And then he manipulated her emotions so well, she just felt addicted to all the madness. She couldn’t seem to stop caring about him, but she was never happy with him. Every attempt to get back together was a waste of time.

Now I doubt most of you would ever sleep with your narcissistic ex. But it just makes the point, how do you ignore someone who knows how to get under your skin? He knows how to start fights, how to manipulate you, maybe even how to make you love him again. Because that’s what narcissists want the most, for you to love them, despite not wanting any responsibility that goes along with that.

So let’s discuss some principles in dealing with a narcissist. We’ll also talk about how to resist his “weapons” of manipulation that always seem to move you right back to where you started.

1. Don’t check up on him. It’s falling into his trap.

First, understand that the very worst thing you can do to a narcissist in terms of punishment is to ignore him. A narcissist’s entire personality is based on the need to be the center of attention. Ignoring him does “punish” him, but only when you resist going back to check in on how or what he’s doing. Too often people fall for the narcissist’s bait. They don’t just want to ignore him…they want to check up on him and see how much he’s hurting, how much he’s suffering, and how unhappy he is now that you’re out of his life.

And guess what happens? He starts alluding to you. He starts talking about you. He takes back your attention because he’s counting on the fact that you’re still checking in on him. So getting rid of the idea of “hurting him” is the first step. You don’t want to punish him and then check in, just to start a dialogue over the calamity of his life. Stop caring. Stop looking in and he will someday have to accept that he’s no longer part of your life.

2. Don’t antagonize him…he’s counting on that.

Too many people fall into a narcissist’s trap because they think that the narcissist feels things similarly, to what they do. How do you feel after an argument? Drained? Stressed? Exhausted? Sure…you want to avoid conflict after a lengthy argument where your emotions are tested.

The narcissist is the exact opposite. He thrives off negativity and argument. Insults, conflict and drama are exactly what he craves. It makes him feel important – like he actually matters. How appropriate that his worst fear is being ignored by everybody!

Don’t antagonize him, even if you feel tempted to punish him or embarrass him. If you do, you’re just giving him another 10 rounds of energy to do battle. It’s pointless. You can win by actually deflating his energy and forcing him to move on, battling with someone else who wants that ongoing conflict.

3. The narcissist is a void, a black hole, and you’re the escaping ship. Heal yourself and you will win.

If you’re the captain of a spaceship and want to escape a black hole, then destroying the powerful void is not your priority. You merely want to escape it, repair the damages and move on. Thinking of this never-ending void as something you can fix, tame, destroy, or punish somehow is impossible.

The narcissist’s battle with the world never ends until he dies. You have the choice to engage with him or to SAVE yourself. You save yourself by addressing YOUR issues, not his. Spend some time healing yourself and focus all of your free energy on transforming your life into something happy, successful and joyful. By repairing the shambles of the life the narcissist left you with, and actually creating a better life and a better version of yourself, YOU will no longer miss the narcissist or think about him. That’s the real victory.

4. Most importantly, remember: it doesn’t matter what other people think about you. All that matters is what your family and friends think about you.

This is one of the narcissist’s best weapons: slandering you to others and hoping you come back to correct the situation. As long as you believe in “truth”, you’ll have to come back and defend yourself against his accusations. Right?

Wrong. The only true peace of mind comes from realizing that you can’t force people to change their minds, or reevaluate their opinions. You can’t force people to like you. You certainly can’t try to dissuade a friend of a narcissist into choosing your side of the story over that of the narcissist. Friends are loyal to friends! It has nothing to do with truth, or who’s right.

Only your opinion matters, when it comes to the future of your life. You are the one in control and you build a favorable reputation every day, by being kind to people and interacting with them. Accepting the fact that not everyone has to like you, and that one narcissist’s opinion of you isn’t at all important, is the real secret to destroying his legacy in your mind.

You ignore him. You also ignore the “world” he has created for you, one where you must respond to everything he ever said about you. Destroy his world and destroy him inside your mind. That’s all that matters.

Remember the key to “defeating” a narcissist is to understand his motivation. He is so insecure that he wants to feel as if he’s won. Continuing to challenge him, punish him, or remind him that you don’t love him is the worst way to “ignore” him. Remember our tips and ignore him for good, this time focusing on repairing the damage and transforming your own life into something wonderful and peaceful again.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

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Blowing Hot and Cold Psychology – How to Deal with a Hot and Cold Man

I’ve some women who ask me about the dangers of dating “players”. And they ask me questions like, “How do I avoid falling for their lies?” or “resist their mind control” and “How can I resist falling for the act” and stuff like that.

There seems to be an almost sensational fear of getting mixed up with a player, as if he’s an evil Machiavellian genius.

Well let me put your mind at ease. Most “players” are not that smart. They’re not evil geniuses and they’re not masterminds of seduction. Even the narcissistic and dangerous ones are not that hard to spot if you’re paying attention to the signs.

They pretty much have one trick going for them. Be funny, be confident and try to be as much of a dick as you can, without upsetting the girl you’re dating.

That’s it. Not much more to it. So my advice has always been if you don’t want to date a player (who’s very easy to spot) then don’t go out with them. Don’t get together with them and think you can change them. Don’t laugh and drink with them and make the mistake of sleeping with them too soon. Same advice I give to any woman who’s looking for a serious relationship.

So let’s review some more details about WHY women find players attractive in the first place and see if we can analyze how to better deal with these guys, knowing what their strategy is.

What’s the Strategy?

One of the most obvious signs that you’re dating a player is if he’s doing the old “hot and cold” routine. One minute he’s very into you, very charming and attentive, and the next minute he becomes distant, surly and maybe even a little rude.

The strategy works because it’s part of a formula. Lots of “hot” attention or love-bombing in the beginning and then a sudden and abrupt STOP.

Now that all the attention is gone, you’re left wondering what you did wrong. So now your desire to talk to him has increased dramatically, even to the point of obsession, IF you don’t understand what he’s doing and why.

And…then the cycle repeats itself until, he figures, you sleep with him.

Like I said, not an evil genius. Kind of just a really simple technique that works on some women.

So now that you understand the cycle, let’s discuss two ways to respond: (1) I’m not interested in a player or (2) I’m interested in the guy but don’t want to get hurt!

1: “I’m not interested.”

Some women are completely uninterested in players because all they do is “play” – they play mind games and want sex. Nothing about their flirting style is real and so they’re not serious long-term relationship material.

So if you’re not interested in what these guys provide (which is sex and mind games) DON’T fall for the cycle. Yes, of course you’re going to like the guy because he will do everything he can to entertain you, impress you and make good conversation. But you know how this is going to end.

So one night stand, fine…but serious relationship? Nah, never going to go anywhere because you can’t change a man from what he is or what he wants in a relationship.

And players don’t want commitment. If they did, they wouldn’t be “playing.”

Now the complicated part comes with option (2) where you really do like him but you know he’s playing you, since he’s doing the Hot and Cold thing.

2: “I like him but I don’t want to get hurt!”

If your desire is to “change” a player and make him fall in love with you and to turn him into a good boy, then I just can’t give you any specific encouragement. I really think the whole concept of “changing a man” is flawed.

However, if you actually do love him despite his flaws, or if you’ve bonded with him in a special way that’s beyond the superficial, (more on that in a moment) then I can help you.

The strategy is to:

A. Don’t give him the negative reaction he wants. Challenge him, by ignoring his “cold phase.” Essentially, you play cold with him when he plays cold with you. You don’t try to fix things. You don’t beg for his attention. And you don’t care, when you sense that he doesn’t care.
B. Do NOT under any circumstances sleep with him, even if it feels right. Because that’s the only leverage he will have on you when it happens. If you resist sleeping with him, he can’t keep doing the same hot and cold cycle because he will soon learn that his cold behavior only brings cold, non-flirty behavior from you too.
C. Reward him slightly for the “hot” phase, the good attention that he gives you. But once again, don’t sleep with him. In essence, you’re training him to be always hot and always attentive.
D. Reward him a LOT when he is actually trying to be real and honest with you. Reward him, when he makes a genuine effort to communicate with you about who he is and what he really wants.

Your system of reward and non-reaction is the best defense against a player. You teach him that hot attention works, cold attention never works, but HONEST and REAL attention is what makes you really feel attracted to him.

I don’t think all players are bad men or narcissistic. They are just men who are too afraid of commitment and who are moving at a very slow pace when it comes to real intimacy.

They can change…but only when it’s their idea. You can’t cure them of their baggage, you can’t make them love you. They will only grow up and move on when they are ready to do so.

They will eventually realize that a long-term relationship is built on honesty, intimacy, and empathy. That’s when they will try to be real and try to meet a high-value woman they really can fall in love with. So the best thing to do is to determine if your hot and cold guy just wants sex (meaning he’s not ready to change) or if he’s really at that point where he could open his heart.

The key is not sleeping with him until he falls in love with you. We talk about that in some other articles on this site, so look those up if you get a spare moment. In the meantime just remember, Hot = Hot and Cold = Cold. You now know enough to play their game and win in.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

The #1 Reason You’re Not His Priority Anymore

Things Narcissists Don’t Want You to Know

Some of the most difficult people you’ll ever meet will have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which refers to a long-term pattern of self-importance, a grandiose desire to be loved by everyone, and a lack of empathy for other people. Notice that NPD has very specific symptoms, as opposed to general “egotism”, which of course, a lot of men and women seem to struggle with.

While it’s true that many people are self-involved these days, narcissism is really a full blown personality disorder that goes beyond annoying, boring or frustrated. It’s downright intolerable. Some women wouldn’t hesitate to call narcissistic old boyfriends “evil”, “sadistic” and just plain “rotten.”

So yeah the song “You’re So Vain” is a great song…but believe me, if you get involved with a narcissist you won’t be writing songs about the experience. It will be some of the worst months of your life.

In this article we’re going to discuss five “secrets” of narcissists that are not often discussed, and certainly NOT what the narcissist himself wants to talk about. In revealing some of these private things, I hope to explain more about what narcissism is and why it’s dangerous in a relationship that’s supposed to be built on trust.

What does the narcissist NOT want you to know? In short, they’re scared to death of being honest about themselves.

1. A narcissist doesn’t want you to know what he really is.

Remember that unlike sociopathic (or Antisocial Personality Disorder) narcissism is characterized by an obsessive need for love. (APD is characterized by a desire to dominate, survive, and prosper, regardless of others)

He wants to be loved by everybody, and wants love instantly, the kind that requires no special effort. So a narcissist might not mind if you “joke” about his egotism. He might even forgive you if you mention that he can be self-absorbed or “narcissistic” sometimes – you know, as in the Narcissus from Greek Mythology.

But if you ever confront him with the TRUTH of his NPD, and the fact that he needs help, he will turn on you furiously. Narcissists refuse to admit they have a problem. Since they consider themselves special and superior to others, they can’t fathom the idea that they actually make other people miserable.

A narcissistic man will turn on you viciously if he feels threatened by you – and knowing of his “secret” is a threat. The narcissist wants to be dominant and wants to achieve his aims. Once he senses that you have turned on him, he will “punish” you repeatedly until you love him again.

2. A narcissist doesn’t want you to know he can change.

A common misconception is that narcissists can’t change. While it’s true that there is no cure for their personality disorder, they CAN actually take steps to correct their damaging behaviors. According to one expert, simply requires the person admitting they were wrong and submitting to constructive therapy.

The problem is, a narcissist is UNWILLING to change. This would require admitting he’s wrong and admitting he needs help – the last thing most narcissistic guys want! While it’s not impossible that he’ll turn over a new leaf, it’s pretty damn unlikely.

Narcissists are ultimately motivated by selfish desires – the need to be loved by many, and the need to win at any cost.

If the worst comes to worst, and the narcissist actually admits what he is, then guess what? He STILL doesn’t want you to know that he can change if he really wanted to. That’s surrendering power, that’s taking responsibility for his mistakes. That’s usually the “last thing” on his to do list, since he lacks empathy for you.

3. A narcissist doesn’t want you to know he lies. Lying is one of his best weapons when it comes to avoiding responsibility.

Narcissists are so motivated to win and to dominate the relationship, they will lie their way out of anything. One of the best lies they tell is known as gaslighting. This basically means he will make you feel crazy, by distorting your memories and your whole perception of reality.

If he can convince you that you’re in the wrong, he gets to be right. Call him on his gaslighting and he will explode with anger.

4. A narcissist wants you to love him…not recognize his love bombing behavior.

Narcissists want your emotion to be genuine – and “sincerity” is everything to them. Ironic, since narcissists don’t actually have much empathy for others and actually experience only very shallow emotions.

But if you call them on the love bomb, he will take offense and not want to hear it. Love bombing refers to the early dating stage where he escalates romantic behavior, hoping to sweep you off your feet. Even though it feels good to have a man seem so head over in heels in love with you, logically speaking love bombing is irrational.

It happens quickly, it’s self-involved (it’s mainly about him showing off his romantic side) and it’s based on manipulation, not true compatibility. You haven’t bonded, you haven’t “learned” each other. Everything is based on sexual attraction and the instant emotional connection he feels with you.

As soon as sex happens, or as the relationship progresses, he gets bored. He disregards you. He moves onto something else and resents you for trying to hold him back.

Survive the love bomb and you’ve avoided one of his best weapons.

5. Narcissists are probably not born that way. They come from a messed up childhood.

Much like APD, NPD is shaped by an erratic childhood. At the heart of a narcissist is a fragile ego and insecurity – he masks it by being abusive to people who threaten him.

The theory is that while genetics may influence the disorder, the main component is denying a child unconditional love. The parent(s) don’t feel comfortable with emotional love. What they do is over-praise and under-discipline the child. This starts the child on a path to believing they’re special, destined for greatness, and of course, always seeking approval from others.

Narcissists will never be comfortable discussing their past, especially their childhood. They don’t want to confront these scars and would rather think of their “idealized” or even delusional childhood memories.

A narcissist doesn’t want you to see the chinks in his armor. Remember that they can be very charming and persuasive. Now that you know their secrets, you can avoid them and focus on falling in love the right way – no bombing required!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

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5 Strong Signs You Have Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

It’s a shame that a large number of people really don’t understand what PTSD, nor do they get treatment for it. PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder) means the various symptoms a person has after experiencing or witnessing a life threatening event. Your body and mind has difficulty reconciling that traumatic memory.

While it’s debatable if official “PTSD” actually happens because of bad relationships, there are still consequences, mental and physical, that result from living in an abusive relationship. In fact, doctors and therapists have started referring to these symptoms as Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome.

You may wonder sometimes if what you experienced was actual “abuse” or if it was just a bad relationship that hurt your heart, pride, feelings, and so on. The easiest way to tell is to simply analyze how the relationship made you feel. How did you change, from the beginning of the relationship to the end?

Remember that narcissists want to be loved, liked, and admired by everyone. So it is actually quite common that narcissistic and sociopathic men might never hit you or make you feel physically threatened. After all, that would make them “unlikable” in the eyes of other people.

But most narcissists WILL emotionally, mentally, and financially abuse their partners.

Sociopaths could also be mentally and emotionally abusive since they lack empathy. There are also people have APD (Antisocial Personality Disorder) AND NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder), who become malignant narcissists who are even more difficult to tolerate.

If the relationship makes you feel miserable and robs you of your self-confidence, it’s time to get out. Here are five of the most obvious signs you are experiencing symptoms of emotional abuse or neglect.

1. You’re still in denial of the abuse that happened.

When narcissist-victims come to counseling, they are usually oblivious or in denial of their suffering. They don’t see or feel the wrong committed against them.

You may make excuses for the abuser, or you are more obsessed with your own failures or feelings of inadequacy. In other words, you are more consumed with solving the narcissist’s “problems” than you are caring for herself.

In this scenario, the narcissist has pummeled you into a state of submission, where you’re worshiping his never-ending ego. In reality, what’s happening is that he has warped your mind, trying to sort out the source of confusion, and figure out where you went wrong.

There is no logical explanation. You simply can’t please a narcissist, no matter how hard you try.

2. You are questioning your own sanity.

Remember that gaslighting is one the narcissist’s best weapons and it works so well because everyone’s a little afraid of going crazy. But you have to start giving yourself credit again. A narcissist WILL gaslight you if it makes him look better, gets him out of a lie, or somehow gives him an advantage. The intent behind gaslighting is to distort a person’s reality and for the narcissist to recreate his own reality.

Some sources believe that is much more diabolical than other forms of emotional abuse, since narcissistic abuse aggressively seeks to control and take

captive another person’s mind. This is what causes PTSD-like symptoms and actually causes the Narcissist Abuse Syndrome that ruins lives.

Case in point, you can leave a man who insults you, once you realize he’s being hurtful. A narcissist will make it very difficult to leave because he will convince you that you’re the one with the problem and that he really loves you.

3. You seem detached and isolated from other people.

This is another one of the narcissist’s tactics. His goal is to isolate you from all sources of power, such as friends and family. His goal is to basically make you into a “dependent personality”, someone who needs him just to function. He’s done such a number on you that your first instincts are to think of him (whether you still love him or hate him) at the expense of everyone else. You seem to have only negative thoughts about the world, yourself and other people in general. The narcissist made sure he was your “everything” and that you gave up on everyone else.

4. He didn’t just hurt you – he directly or indirectly threatened your life on several occasions.

Some people speculate that the difference between APD and NPD is that APD abusers will exploit you in unlawful ways, thereby threatening your life. The narcissist may love you, or at least value your life, and try to avoid causing physical harm. But a malignant narcissist (APD + NPD) will exploit you financially, sexually, physically, and basically put your life in jeopardy in many different ways.

In fact, inflicting pain on a partner is oftentimes a narcissist’s “ritual”. The pain may be minor at first but it escalates over time. Before you know it, your very life is in danger…not merely your happiness, which is long gone.

5. It’s not just about pain…it’s about total dominance.

The narcissist will resort to emotional blackmail, which is essentially “punishments” he hands down to manipulate emotions from you. Usually these emotions are negative – fear, guilt, a sense of obligation or loyalty. even states the narcissists will resort to competing with you, and always one-upping you in everything – even little day to day activities – so as to feed his own ego.

Along the way, he will use other tactics in order to dominate your life – comparing you to

other people, sabotaging your efforts in life, withholding things you want from him, neglecting your needs, and invading your privacy.

In closing, remember that narcissists usually always know what they are. They are driven by a very WEAK ego, which makes it necessary to “win” at everything they do. The idealized image that he wants of himself means everything to him, which is why he can never tolerate anyone questioning him or anyone falling short of his impossibly high standards. He must be loved always…or else he punishes you.

That’s the kind of love you don’t need! Avoid this fellow and start focusing on finding real love!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

Is He Moving Too Slowly For You? Here’s Why Men Hold Back

4 Sneaky Things Narcissists Say to Get You Back

Narcissistic men are a clever bunch, aren’t they? They are so consumed with power, fame and success that they are willing to do literally anything to continuously feed their ego. Narcissists are driven by the desire to dominate and win in relationships, while feeling little to nothing for their partners.

They are characterized by a lack of empathy and the tendency to punish their partners if they feel threatened and not “loved” enough. Most people will tell you to avoid a narcissistic or sociopathic man altogether and to not even try creating a relationship with him, because it’s next to impossible to survive it.

But here’s the truly disturbing part of it. Narcissists are so charming and believable (since they have to be, to get what they want) they are actually very good at re-seducing their ex and getting back together with her!

Even though she knows it’s a bad idea, even though she’s already determined to break up with him and mean it.

That’s right, this article is not about ways a narcissist “gets back at you” (and believe me,

they will do that too) but sneaky things they say to get back WITH YOU, right back to square one – that hellhole called a relationship with him. The same man you once decided you hated and couldn’t live with…and now you’re back with him.

How and why does this happen? It’s something that frequently happens in relationships and it’s not always something that you, as the narcissist’s victim, will understand. Some people chalk it up to “love” or “loving abuse” (Stockholm Syndrome) or even the “Twin Flame” relationship.

But here’s the truth: narcissists are very good at psychologically manipulating their exes because, very simply, they know what buttons to push! The narcissist learns what works in the relationship over time and how to make his partner feel, react and respond in a certain way. He uses those same techniques to get the response he wants, in this case, falling in love with him again.

The question is why does the narcissist do it? Because getting an ex back that they “lost” feeds their ego. They want to be loved always and so the idea of losing a relationship (especially if he didn’t initiate it) will bother him until he makes it right.

Of course, if he dumps you a week later after winning you back then it’s irrelevant because it was his decision. When it’s your decision to break it off, it threatens the narcissist’s ego and that’s when he gets nasty.

Here are four ways that the narcissist wheedles you back into his arms, even after you’ve decided you’ve had enough.

1. “I want us to stay friends.”

Seems easy, right? You’ve left on such bad terms and the idea of hating him and him hating you causes grief in your soul. The idea that he wants to go back to being just friends feels good! But the narcissist’s goal is usually to get back together with you and “reclaim” what he lost. He may take a break but he will usually come back and make his more heartfelt and earnest proposal yet.

He will say he made a mistake, can’t live without you, and that he needs you in his life as a partner once again. His ultimate goal is to make you a friend-with-benefits and validate his ego with easy but meaningless sex.

You really can’t stay “friends” with a narcissistic ex because he has no concept of

privacy and respect – which is required if you want to stay friends.

2. “Okay…let’s give therapy a try.”

The narcissistic ex is very clever when it comes to playing emotional poker. He knows when you have met your threshold for abuse…which is why if he senses he’s losing this battle, that he will make a “sacrifice” to win you over.

Therapy teaches that admitting you have a problem and seeking help is the first step to recovery, right? That’s admirable…that’s the kind of thing that might guilt you into taking him back. Especially if he throws in statements like, “I’m an idiot…” or “I know I’ve let you down.”

But he also knows playing the part of the repentant ex that wants to change is exactly what you want from him and so he will dangle that promise under your nose for as long as possible.

Narcissists rarely ever change. They put the least bit of effort forward to gain as much unconditional love as you can give them. Whenever he makes concessions like therapy, it’s just to buy more time. It’s just to feed his ego and give you false hope. But watch him in therapy and you will see the games do continue.

3. “Oh boo hoo hold me! I now realize…you’re the only woman I’ll ever love!”

Yes narcissists will cry and give you a big dramatic moment – if that’s what it takes to get you to reconcile with him. He knows the power of a man’s tears and that sometimes giving you strong emotion feels like reconciliation. He feels the pain you’ve suffered and has supposedly learned his lesson.

Problem is, he usually never changes or learns anything – except how to get a reaction from you. Narcissists are very good actors and can emotion well, just as easily as they can lie. His intent in putting on such a show is to make you forget all the negativity that’s happened and give him one more chance…

Because, of course, now he’s learned his lesson. He realizes that before he wasn’t sure how he felt about you…but now, he understands you’re his one true love. His intent is to get you to believe everything will change and that the past is behind you.

The worst part of it is, naturally, a narcissist WILL continue to act for the next few days or

even weeks. He will lull you into a false sense of comfort, the “change” you dream about. But as soon as you fall under his spell again, he goes back to his old ways.

4. “Well the only reason I slept with her was because I thought you were seeing someone else. You were, weren’t you?”

Lastly, remember that a narcissist will always blame you for his wrongdoing in the relationship. He may occasionally fess up to his mistakes to win points with you…but that is a very short lived apology. His ego will not allow him to take responsibility for what he does and has done. He will eventually go back to blaming you, indicating that everything was your fault, and that he didn’t do anything wrong.

Sometimes a narcissist will blame the “other woman” he’s cheating with for seducing him. Sometimes he blames your family for making things difficult. Sometimes he guilts you into seeing his misery, his loneliness and longing for you.

But the point is, he will always blame someone else and avoid responsibility. Narcissists can change their hurtful behavior, in theory, but statistically that’s very rare. It’s far more common that he goes through life deceiving, manipulating and abusing his partners as long as they keep falling for the same old shtick.

The first time you break up with a narcissist should be the last time as well. If you’re really looking for a serious relationship and not a time-waster, look for good qualities in a man and avoid bad qualities like the plague. A narcissist has mostly bad qualities hidden behind lots of charm, confidence and desperation.

Avoid him and live happily ever after.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

The 3 Mistakes Women Make At The End Of A Relationship

9 Signs of a Narcissistic Partner

Here’s one thing I’ve observed about narcissism in the modern age.  The word is definitely over-used.

Narcissistic actors, narcissistic politicians on Instagram, and yes, of course your narcissistic ex-boyfriend or ex-friend who were always so self-involved.

Yes, it’s unpleasant to be friends or lovers with a man who is always self-absorbed.  But be that as it may, there’s still a difference between narcissistic tendencies and full blown narcissistic personality disorder (NPD).  

Egotistical men are annoying.  But narcissistic men are almost impossible to live with in the long-term, which explains why a lot of dating coaches, therapists and doctors will advise you to stay clear.

Narcissists are not just vain – a lot of people are vain.  They are obsessed with their own lives, thoughts and success.  This grandiose-level of obsession doesn’t leave them any empathy for you.  And that’s what is frustrating.

Here are nine signs that the guy you’re dating might be “suffering” from NPD.  Or to put it another way, making you suffer from it!

1. He has a strong sense of superiority about himself.  This eradicates boundaries on what he can get away with.

This is why a narcissist is oftentimes an emotional abuser, a cheater, a liar, and so on.  He enjoys pushing boundaries. Or at the very least, he feels the rules don’t apply to him. He is always the exception to the rule.  

2. All of your interactions with him constantly feed his ego.

Whether he’s being charming, kind or even abusive and bullying, the result is the same.  He gets what he wants. He dominates the conversation and the relationship. It’s never 50/50 it’s all about pleasing him.  

The problem is, NPD is difficult to spot, since narcissists survive by being charming, spontaneous, deceptive and making it appear as if they’re perfect for you.

3. Beware the gaslighting.  

One reason a narcissist is difficult to live with – and why his behavior can sometimes be spotted – is that he is incapable of humbling himself or admitting he was wrong.  Narcissists will “gaslight” you into making you agree with them. They will do practically anything to get their way, whether it’s smothering you with kindness, or bullying you, or even making you think you’re crazy.  Rather than admit his lie, a narcissist will toy with your perception of events and convince you that you’re the one who’s suffering from distorted reality.

4. Beware the love bombing.

A narcissist’s best weapon is love bombing – and he usually targets women with low self-esteem, who don’t think it’s strange that he seems so perfect.  Love bombing means he falls in love with you quickly, escalating sex and emotional connection. The problem is that he quickly loses interest after he gets what he wants.  

Now the relationship is built on false promises.  You’re used to that level of love that the narcissist first showed, but by now he’s bored and is moving on to something else, no longer able to give you that emotional connection.

5. His reputation means everything to him.

He is far more concerned about how things look, and how things reflect on him to others, than he is concerned about your feelings.  The narcissist is motivated by the desire to be loved by everyone. This explains his abusive behavior when he feels threatened. He will “punish” you until you love him again.

 

6. A narcissist feels emotions differently.  

He regards your emotions as confusing and overly sentimental.  But of course, what he feels is the center of the universe.

Some studies have suggested narcissists feel emotions on a shallow level, which explains why he considers being honest and staying humble a weakness.  Most narcissists seek to be immediately loved by everyone they meet. They “seduce” everyone, always, hoping to develop a stellar reputation.

7. He has a long list of broken and bitter relationships…that’s never his fault.

This is one of the most telling ways to identify a narcissist…or frankly, any man with a serious personality disorder.  Narcissists usually never admit when they’ve made a mistake, unless it can immediately benefit them somehow.

That means when a man complains of his psycho ex, or shallow ex, or anything about his ex that wronged him…yeah it’s usually his delusional behavior.

Most relationships fail because of incompatibility and the flaws of both partners.  When one person is a perpetual “victim” in every relationship, and never seems to take responsibility for their part in it, this suggests he is emotionally immature.  Very likely “grandiose” and narcissistic. Rest assured, when the relationship goes south you’ll be yet another Evil Ex that he tells his next conquest about, in hopes of quickly gaining sympathy.

8. He doesn’t have friends as much as he has “minions”.

Yeah, seriously, his friends are more like “followers” who worship and idolize him!  Like those little yellow minions from Despicable Me.  They go along with anything he says, believing the relationship is of great benefit to them.  Meanwhile, the narcissist uses his friends to feed his ego or use their resources. In other words, these are not real give and take friendships built on mutual respect.  In fact, narcissists will usually get rid of friends that challenge or criticize him.

9. He thinks everyone loves him…or is insanely jealous of him.

There’s no in between.  Narcissists go out of their way to be LOVED immediately and if they’re not, it’s always because that other person is jealous or spiteful.  He simply can’t comprehend that some people just recognize his bad behavior and call him out on it. That’s when he will disregard your feelings and opinions.  Don’t toy with him…if you sense he is a bad seed, just cut him out. Playing mind games with him will start a war and things will get ugly.

Now that you’ve studied the “closet narcissist” you’re more equipped to spot his bad behaviors.  Remember that a lot of guys are self-absorbed at first…but they will eventually be interested in you when you start to bond.  Narcissists will always stay the same and will rarely – if ever – change. This is as good as it gets and for most women, that’s unbearable!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

Five Turnoffs That Make Good Men Leave Great Women

How to Know if the Guy You’re Seeing is a Narcissist

In past articles I’ve spoken on the subject of narcissism, specifically, avoiding men who have narcissistic tendencies.  If you’ve never really read about narcissism or only vaguely understand the concept, then you may not understand why it’s such a “big deal” in dating.

After all, narcissists are really easy to spot in a crowd, right?  Why just think of your least favorite politicians! The way he or she is always showboating and drawing attention to themselves.  Or think of Hollywood actors and how self-involved they are – to the point where it’s obvious they don’t care about other people. They just want money and fame!

True, in some ways narcissists are easy to spot.  Or at least…CAREER NARCISSISTS are easy to spot.  Men and women who only care about getting ahead or being loved by millions, at the expense of everyone else.

But the truth is, in dating you really don’t meet the career narcissist.  You actually meet a guy who APPEARS to be really funny, really likable and really confident.  That’s the guy you meet, that’s the guy you fall for.  It sounds a lot like Mister Right / Prince Charming, doesn’t it?  The kind of guy every girl would LOVE to meet.

And that’s the only “sign” you get.  Nothing else, at least not at first.

How in the world are you supposed to dislike or fear a guy who’s handsome, extroverted and charming?  So what, are you supposed to date with the attitude of “He’s too good to be true…something fishy is going on!”

That’s the challenge because you really have to use your powers of perception to spot a

narcissist.  Narcissists do NOT actually come across as egotistical or self-centered, not when you first meet them.  If that were the case, women could see them coming a mile away.

No, for the narcissist to thrive – and then either sleep with a lot of women or emotionally abuse one woman after another – he has to be really good at what he does.  The narcissist is charming. He usually has a great sense of humor.

More to the point, he understands the secret of dating, at least from a guy’s point of view: give the woman plenty of attention, make her laugh, stimulate her emotions and give off masculine energy.

That means that the “tell” or “red flag” of a narcissist is far more subtle than you thought.  You have to look BEYOND how the guy makes you feel and beyond the great first impression (or even second or third impression) and analyze what he’s really saying behind those pretty words.  

Here are five subtle narcissistic behaviors to look for that really tell the story.

1. He tolerates you but he’s mainly interested in talking about himself.

Narcissists are characterized by their inability to care about other people.  They will listen to you. They will pretend to be interested. They will use information you give them to seduce you later.  But do they actually want to talk about you? Usually not. Narcissists are uninterested in your life, except what they can get out of you.

If your boyfriend or date only seems to come alive when he’s talking about himself, beware!  The conversation should be two-sided. He should be trying to get to know you. Narcissists, however, will mainly be interested in getting praise from you – for their accomplishments, talent and greatness.  It may be “funny” and he may actually be very talented. But is that all you ever talk about?

2. He treats other people horribly.

Narcissists have the habit of discarding people they don’t need anymore.  That’s why you should pay close attention to how he treats people that he doesn’t need.  How does he treat his family, your family or both of your circle of friends? How does he treat waiters and waitresses?  Does he belittle them just to get a laugh out of you or show off? Or does he treat everyone with respect?

3. He is not just sensitive…he overreacts to get his way each and every time.

Narcissists are so determined to be right and to get their way, they will do anything they can to manipulate you.  So if their charm doesn’t work, the next step is to get angry. Some will even resort to crying just to get you to cooperate.  The point is, their reaction is  always “over the top” and overly sensitive. If their emotional needs are not meant they will resort to bad behavior and blame you for causing the conflict.

4. He will belittle you and chip away at your self-confidence.

One of the best weapons of the narcissist is getting you to doubt yourself.  He may do this overtly – as in emotional abuse – or he may do it in more subtle ways, like “gaslighting” you and persuading you to believe his lies.  

Narcissists will also try to minimize your accomplishments and will never actually be proud of you or happy for you.  They’re too competitive and they see every accomplishment you make as a threat.

The mark of a narcissistic man is his lack of empathy.  He may get along with you at times, but the relationship will always be stressed because he’s mostly concerned about his own feelings and doesn’t have any emotional resources left to help you.  A narcissist will never sacrifice for you or humble himself. Everything he does is self-serving.

Granted, it’s not always easy to see a narcissistic guy for what he is.  And at times, he may seem genuine or even apologetic. The real issue is how he makes you feel and how long he lasts being the “perfect guy.”  Narcissists are on a timer…they will eventually reveal their true colors.

Either date him for a longer period of time before getting serious, at which point his bad behavior will become more obvious, or pay close attention to the subtle behaviors that indicate complete self-absorption.  

Walking away from a charming narcissist is difficult…but believe me, it’s better you cut him off now than wait until the stressful and heartbreaking divorce!  Be strong and be good to yourself, not just a man who likes you.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

Is your man hiding something He may need your help

8 Signs He’s Faking His Love for You

What are the signs he’s faking his love for you?

One of the most cunning opponents in dating is the narcissist. Narcissists, sociopaths and god forbid “narcissistic sociopaths” are among the most unpleasant and unbearable people to be around. It’s hard to imagine having a long-term relationship with one of these guys. It’s constant misery and you’re fighting a losing battle to try against all odds to make them happy…

It’s hard to imagine why any woman would want to date a narcissist…

Oh just one problem though. It’s really hard to see a narcissist’s true colors when you first meet him. After all, he prides himself on being loved by others. He wants to impress you, romance you and yes LOVE you.

That’s the love-bombing phase. That’s when he goes overboard with emotion and flatters you with romance, sex, and promises of happiness, only to yank it all away later on, when he gets bored of you.

It’s a vicious dating pattern and unfortunately, many women do not see the narcissist for what he is, it until it’s far too late. And yeah, it sucks that many narcissists just so happen to be rich, handsome and extroverted.

But I’m going to let you in a little secret for spotting ad stopping these narcissists, players and womanizing guys. You can always tell a man’s true colors if you observe MORE than just what he’s saying, and actually pay attention to how he’s behaving.

8 Signs He’s Faking His Love For You

Let’s consider eight signs that show undoubtedly he is faking love for you and has no plans for a long-term future.

1. You don’t qualify as family or even to be near his inner circle of friends.

Men who are serious about you will introduce you to their families and friends. If he keeps you away from them, regardless of excuses, it shows that he’s not ready to combine worlds…and he probably never will be. Even in social media, you’re still the “dirty little secret” he won’t admit.

2. Meanwhile, your friends don’t like him. At all.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that a player / narcissist CAN charm your family because he knows that’s his obligation. But I am also fairly sure he will NOT try so hard to impress your friends, and friends of friends.

He only has so much fakery to give in a day’s time so he won’t give 100% to all of your friends, if he feels he can neglect some of them. That’s the friend you should listen to…the one who sees him in his “natural state.” Aloof and unconcerned about someone’s feelings.

3. He’s not much for cuddling.

It seems that men that aren’t really in love with you are immune to the cuddling and afterglow—which are some of the best parts of the serious relationship. If he only makes you feel loved during sex, and seems to always want to be alone after sex, he is getting no pleasure from actually being intimate with you.

4. He “falls in love” way too soon.

The MO of the narcissist is that he love-bombs partners with low self-esteem. And he can sense that you desire love and to not be lonely. He knows making grand spectacles of his love will win your loyalty.

He tends to be extreme in the way he says “I love you” too, with poetry and sweeping statements. But in between these grand romantic gestures you may notice you haven’t actually spent much time together. It’s more of a love at first sight thing…which is straight out of fairy tales.

5. He doesn’t challenge you…he tells you just what you want to hear.

There will be moments of testing and challenging in a normal relationship, it’s part of growing together. But when a guy seems too perfect and knows exactly what to say to impress you, chances are he’s not communicating with you at all, but telling you what you want to hear.

6. He’s moving too fast. As opposed to commitment-phobic guy who moves too slow.

Yes, the correct answer is “progresses in the relationship at a balanced pace. Obviously, a man who never wants to commit, even years later, is not the guy you want.

But what’s even scarier is a guy who wants to commit within weeks or months of meeting you. You have to wonder, what is his motive? Is he after sex, money or something else? Is he really that desperate for a woman that he’s willing to devote his entire life to you, after knowing you for such a short time?

If he’s handsome and successful, there’s a very good chance he’s NOT desperate but has an ulterior motive.

7. Look out for gaslighting techniques early on.

Most people think of gaslighting techniques (making you feel crazy and doubting your own insanity) as something that happens later on in relationships.

But with a narcissistic personality, he will often manipulate you into admitting he’s the best guy you’ve ever dated. He’ll find fault with everyone and (playfully) get you to admit he is good for you.

A real man doesn’t have to persuade you of this. You know it and you tell him. NOT the other way around!

8. He treats everyone else BADLY.

You may have to look beyond your family and circle of friends because narcissists can fake sincerity to a degree. What they cannot do, however, is be nice to everyone they’ve ever met. Way too much method acting there and not within his abilities. (After if he was capable of being nice to everyone he wouldn’t be a narcissist!)

There’s a very good chance he has plenty of disgruntled friends, enemies, exes and acquaintances he double-crossed. Go get the real story from them.

Love bombing is very real. Remember his offerings are not always gifts and grand romantic gestures either. Sometimes love bombing can include flirting, teasing and giving you lots of attention. Just be aware that something that seems so wonderful and perfect is usually too good to be true. Perfection is impossible and real love is earned over time. Don’t let a man trick you into bed or into spending away your resources simply because he caught you at a vulnerable time.

Work on your own self-confidence and then analyze the relationship as it progresses. Real love is patient and it will only grow over time. Narcissists and players, like a storm, will pass over you quickly.

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<

 

 

 

4 Flirting Tips That Attract Men in Just the Right Way

8 Things a Guy Will Never Do If He Really Likes You

There was once a song that went “I used to love to make you cry…it made me feel like a man inside.”

It’s a somewhat juvenile attitude that thankfully many men have outgrown in the last few decades. That’s at least one great thing to come from this age of Political Correctness and ultra-sensitivity: no, it’s not cool to beat up on women, to insult women, make sexist comments or sexually harass women just because they can. So that’s the good news!

But…

The truth is in relationships and even in dating, we have a long way to go before we can all say we’re playing nice. Because, yes, there are still some men out there who use emotionally and verbally abusive behaviors.

They may try some of these tactics for more control in the relationship, or to punish their partner, or even to make their partner feel dependent and helpless.

It’s really simple: a man who loves you would NEVER, EVER do any of the eight following things. Why? Because these are some rat-bastard, lowdown and disgusting things to do to any human being—and especially someone that claims to love you!

1. Flirt with other girls in front of you.

This is very aggressive behavior, suggesting that the man is either completely indiscriminating when it comes to picking up women (meaning he’s as interested in you as he is 20 other people standing beside you) OR that he’s just playing games. Either way, this shows a total lack of respect.

2. Make nonnegotiable demands in the relationship, even if they hurt you.

If a man makes demands in the relationship and puts his selfish craving above your comfort level or your moral boundaries, he obviously doesn’t love you or even like you all that much. Some girls may find this behavior exciting or daring, but in the long-term, it signifies a real problem—violating your rights to feel safe and comfortable.

3. Lie or gaslight you into cooperation.

Although you rarely see this behavior in the early dating stage, as the relationship progresses an emotionally abusive man will start to lie frequently or use “gaslighting” techniques to force you into submission. Gaslighting means that he will fabricate evidence or lie, trying to convince you that he’s right and is always right and that nothing is ever his fault. He may even try to drive you crazy with nonsensical and self-contradicting arguments in hopes of bullying you into more submissive behavior.

4. Stand you up or forget/take forever to return your message.

Although this is not really abusive behavior, put this under the column of negligence. A man that really likes you or is falling for you will prioritize you. He will be reasonably quick about returning messages and phone calls. He will not keep you waiting for hours, or days or even weeks just to say he forgot. Even in his tone of voice (or if you will, his tone of text) using polite words, avoiding names and avoiding emotion, in general, is a bad sign. A man that likes you, or loves you, will not take your attention for granted. If he stands you up on a date or a phone call or is always late, then this shows just how little he cares about your feelings.

5. Batter your self-esteem.

If he makes you feel bad about yourself, doubt yourself, feel self-conscious or makes fun of you, this indicates not only aggressive behavior but total incompatibility. He’s either not happy with the person you are, or he’s just ramming your self-confidence to make you more dependent on him. Run far away as soon as he starts aggressively teasing you.

Passive aggressive behavior is in the same vein as verbal abuse, since he uses aggressive tactics to punish you. He may be trying to bully you, or may even want to scare you into complete compliance. The more the punishment, the less you’ll argue with him. All of this serves one purpose: to batter your self-esteem and rob you of your independence.

6. Ignore you in front of VIPs.

A man that really likes or loves you will be proud to be seen with you. He will have no problem introducing you to his parents, friends, and colleagues. This just shows how well you fit into his lifestyle, he’s ready to let you into his inner circle. If a man hides you from all the important people in his life, he obviously doesn’t respect you or thinks you’re a bad “fit”. Not only is it telling about how he really feels, but it’s also a bit rude, don’t you think?

7. Disappear with no logical or believable explanation.

Men who don’t respect you or don’t like you will not just disappear without telling you why. They will give a full explanation. They will apologize when they have to miss. They will make follow up plans quickly. A man that doesn’t like you, probably won’t give much thought to disappearing for days or weeks on end, not bothering to tell you why or when.

Now this might be annoying behavior when dating a guy, but it’s downright heartbreaking as the relationship goes on and he starts violating your trust. He may also leave you for hours or days at a time and hang out with other people, without much of an explanation—except that he prefers their company to yours. If he still claims to like you after dumping you for a better date, he’s obviously unaware or unconcerned about your feelings.

8. Flatter you but never really listen.

Talk is cheap and it’s easy for a guy to be charming, nice or even “love bomb” you too soon in the beginning. But sometimes guys who seem overly nice are actually being manipulative and putting on high pressure to control the relationship. They also tend to talk, promise, charm and perform…without ever actually listening to you or remembering anything you say.

A man who doesn’t listen obviously has no interest in giving you anything but is only interested in taking something. A man who likes you will be interested in what you have to say because he actually values this friendship, this relationship.

As you can see, you can tell if a guy likes you / loves you based on how you FEEL when you’re with him. If you’re always in a state of anxiety or depression, then resist the urge to stay with him. Negative feelings are only amplified as the relationship goes on. But when he really likes you, like becomes love and love grows stronger!

The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life

There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…

And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…

Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…

I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…

Click here to watch the video now <<

My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…

I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…

Get into relationships where they feel loved, seen, and cherished by the men they’re with…

When you click the link this link right here <<

I show you what this 5 word phrase is…

I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…

And how to attract the man you want…

Into a relationship where you’re loved and adored and treated like a priority…

No matter how painful things have been in your past…

You can attract a great man and have a great relationship…

Just click the link on your screen and the watch the video right now…

If you’re struggling with men pulling away from you…

If you’re tired of giving everything to a relationship and only being taken for granted…

And if you’re ready to have a man see you as a woman that he wants to be with forever…

Click this link to watch my video right now <<