You give everything… hoping he’ll finally see you as the one.

But instead, he stays distant, inconsistent, and unsure.

Thank you for taking the Love Blocks Quiz.

Based on your answers, your biggest love block is called The Rescuer.

If you’ve ever found yourself chasing a connection where you’re giving 90% and getting 10%, this is the pattern behind it — and once you understand it, you can finally flip it for good.

Hi, I’m Matthew Coast — bestselling author, relationship researcher, and coach.

I’ve worked with hundreds of thousands of women who loved wholeheartedly yet somehow ended up doing all the work in their relationships.

And I can tell you with 100% certainty: this pattern is not who you are — it’s simply what your heart learned to do.

You have a generous soul — the kind that believes love can heal.

You feel things others barely notice.

You see potential in men who’ve forgotten their own.

But when that empathy turns into over‑giving, you slip into an invisible role — the caretaker — and commitment becomes a moving target.

He admires your strength yet takes your loyalty for granted.

He says, “You’re amazing… I’m just not ready.”

You wait, hope, and try to be understanding — until your needs quietly disappear.

When he turns cold, your instinct is to fix it — reach out, reassure, prove your love.

But when a man’s Devotion Switch is off, effort alone convinces him he doesn’t need to step up.

When he turns cold, your instinct is to fix it — reach out, reassure, prove your love.

But when a man’s Devotion Switch is off, effort alone convinces him he doesn’t need to step up.

You want clarity; he feels cornered.

When his emotional bonding isn’t complete, even an honest conversation feels like pressure — and he retreats.

You’ve probably already felt it…

Emotional burnout.

Doubt creeping in where confidence used to live.

Another almost‑relationship that fizzles when you finally ask for more.

Each round chips away at your belief that love can actually feel safe and mutual.

But the truth?

You don’t need to keep rescuing, waiting, or convincing.

Because the way men fall in love and decide to commit is simpler — and much more within your control, than you’ve been led to believe.

And it all comes down to one thing → Flipping His Devotion Switch... we'll talk more about that in a minute...

It’s not that he doesn’t care.

It’s that the part of his brain responsible for long‑term bonding — what I call the Devotion Switch — is still off.

When that switch is off:

But when that switch flips on, everything changes.

He begins to feel that you’re the woman he can’t risk losing.

Suddenly he’s texting first, making plans, talking about a future — completely on his own.

The good news?

You can influence that switch consciously — without manipulation, pressure, or games.

Most women stuck in the Rescuer pattern approach love as a test:

But for a man, devotion is born from shared purpose, not proof.

I call this the Partnership Principle.

It’s when a man feels you’re working with him rather than for him.

He experiences you as an ally, not an examiner.

You stop over‑functioning and start collaborating — bringing back lightness, curiosity, and playful curiosity instead of anxious effort.

When this happens, his guard drops because he no longer feels like he’s letting you down — he feels like he’s letting the team down.

And that small shift is often what begins to turn the key on his Devotion Switch.

CASE STUDY

“After learning the Partnership Principle, I stopped reminding him to text or plan dates.
Within weeks, he started initiating everything — even suggesting we move in together!”

Every man subconsciously falls in love when he experiences two emotions at the same time:
1. Admiration – he feels seen for his effort and masculinity.
2. Emotional Safety – he feels accepted, not judged.

This pairing creates what I call the Connection Trigger.

When you combine gentle appreciation with confident emotional boundaries, a man experiences a rare sense of peace and purpose with you.
That’s the chemical environment that flips his Devotion Switch from “interest” to investment.

A Quick Example
You might normally say:

“Why don’t you ever open up to me?”

A simple re‑frame using the Connection Trigger could be:

“I love listening when you talk about what matters to you.”

Notice the difference?
One creates pressure; the other creates space.
And in that emotional space, commitment grows naturally.

There’s a moment in every relationship that decides everything — the conversation about where this is heading.

Most people treat that moment like a landmine: keep still, and maybe nothing blows up.

But a confident woman doesn’t tiptoe around love; she knows the right conversation doesn’t scare a man off — it wakes him up.

When a man sees genuine value in what you share, he doesn’t dread the commitment talk.

He leans in, because he finally sees a woman who knows her own worth and invites him into something meaningful.

The key isn’t whether you bring it up.

It’s how you bring it up — whether you communicate expectation or inspiration.

When you express what you truly want without flinching, you instantly shift the emotional balance.

He stops wondering if this is casual and starts checking whether he measures up to you.

It’s direct but warm, clear but compassionate.

When you have this conversation the right way, the right man doesn't retreat.

He self‑selects. He either commits more deeply — or you gain the clarity to move on with peace instead of confusion.

If you're one of my clients, I walk you through exactly how to prepare for that moment step‑by‑step ,  including the specific phrasing (what I call the Power Phrase) that ties everything together so he feels drawn toward commitment because it aligns with his own masculine drive.

Case Study – Nicole
“After using what Matthew taught about the Power Phrase, my boyfriend started talking about marriage and kids.
It’s like I finally opened a book to his heart.”

If you’ve been running yourself ragged trying to fix men who “just aren’t ready,” this is your turning point.

Because the ability to flip a man’s Devotion Switch doesn’t come from rescuing him — it comes from knowing how to inspire his own desire to commit.

And that’s exactly what I walk you through, step by step, inside my program The Devotion Switch.

Inside The Devotion Switch, you’ll discover:

You don’t have to wait months for him to change.

You just need to lead differently — from devotion, not desperation.

If you recognized yourself in the Rescuer pattern, here’s the best news you’ll hear today:

The problem has never been that you love too much.
It’s that you’ve been fueling love in the wrong direction — through effort instead of energy.

When you learn to channel that same heart into the principles that flip his Devotion Switch, everything changes.

That’s why I created a complete, step‑by‑step guide called The Devotion Switch System.

It’s an easy‑to‑follow digital program that walks you through how to inspire the kind of devotion most women only dream about.

Inside, you’ll discover:

You’ll also get workbook exercises, examples of real‑life message scripts, and practical checkpoints so you can apply each step right away.