Are you still drowning in platonic vibes with your guy crush? That’s a sad place to be. No matter how many hints you seem to drop, he just keeps becoming more polite and more congenial. Like a boss, like a waiter or worse yet, your big brother!
But you’ve studied the signs and it does seem like he really likes you. He makes strong eye contact with you. He seems unusually sweet and eager-to-please. But he isn’t exactly being suave and romantic yet. Maybe he needs a little bit of encouragement.
Relax…that doesn’t mean you have to plant a kiss on him or seduce him ala Mrs. Robinson. You can be much more subtle than that. The biggest turn on for a guy is not a passive or submissive woman. It’s a woman that responds to him in a sexual way and uses her charm and wit to challenge him to try harder.
Yes, to try harder—that is, by being more romantic, masculine and determined to chase. You act natural but you do little things to turn him on. Using sexy but subtle gestures you can awaken the “animal desire” in him.
If you need a few pointers on how to evoke hidden passions in that Romeo, look no further. Here are seven of the biggest turn ons that will always get a “rise” out of your man.
1. The Hug / Kiss
You can’t just plant a smooch on a guy…but who says you can’t give him a lingering hug followed by a platonic wet kiss on his cheek? Lingering body contact is always good, but the wet kiss will have him fantasizing about your lips all night.
2. The Sexy Whisper
No matter how friendly you are, there will always be something intimate and sexy about a woman whispering softly into a man’s ear. Make the excuse of sharing something secret. Use your hands to cup his ears and then make sure your lips just barely graze his ear as you speak. He will be aroused quickly—and will have no control over it!
3. The Flash of Skin
While it might feel a little desperate to dress “scantily” (aka trashy), a brief flash of skin will captivate a man’s imagination. Remind him that you are a sexual woman and that you enjoy attention from men. Wear heels to accentuate your legs, or a moderately short skirt. Highlight your curves by wearing form-fitting clothing. Tighter tops and looser bottoms will ensure the attention goes to your upper body. Keep a straight posture.
You can also wear an underwire bra while sporting an eye-catching neck piece. If you want to wear a low plunging dress wear a sweater or jacket to deemphasize the cleavage and look a little more hard-to-get. To show off your butt, wear a shorter top to expose the midriff / lower back. This works very well when you “accidentally” bend over and can show off right in front of him.
4. The Eye Duel
There’s something downright primitive about strong and consistent eye contact. It’s simply not becoming of friendship to STARE. (How many times did mom tell us not to stare anyway?) It’s especially non-platonic to think kinky thoughts while you stare and to give your crush the coy smile. As if saying silently, “I know what you’re thinking. You want me…and I feel the same way.”
Once you lock eyes, don’t break the contact even if he starts “dueling” you. Remain calm and smile, but give him a little mischievous feeling when you stare back at him. Just when he’s ready to look away, or when he’s starting to notice you’re staring at him, look away. Let him wonder what you were thinking. Let a few minutes pass and then, look at him again. Tease him with full on eye contact and don’t be afraid to flirt ONLY using your eyes. If you master the right look, you won’t ever have to tell him how you feel. He will sense it and return that energy back to you.
5. Innocent Talk About Sex
Whether you’re just friends, or even in a committed relationship, guys can’t resist it when a woman starts talking about sex. Discuss past erotic experiences, or fantasies, or even chitchat about everyday sex in relationships. You’ll be surprised at how quickly a man loses concentration and follows you into the bedroom so to speak. He might not kiss you right away but his mind will turn to more exciting topics and the sexual tension between the two of you will increase.
6. Innocent Talk About Life
Even if you must talk about other things besides sex, there is definitely a way to arouse passion. Intimacy between two friends, or even strangers, can be increased by asking personal questions. Mutual vulnerability helps bring people together romantically and the best way to reach this state is to share experiences, memories and viewpoints about life. Not only is asking for specific memories a good ploy, but asking hypothetical questions about the future works well in getting him to open his mind.
Simply put, the more vulnerable you become over time, the less platonic the relationship feels. Now all that’s left is to reintroduce sexual tension.
7. Friendly Competition
Another way to get a man interested in you and bring him to that state of vulnerability is to get his emotions riled up. Competition between the two of you is good for a spike in testosterone, which directly affects the sex drive. In addition to competition, enjoying thrill sports or horror movies together is a quicker way to feel a jolt of emotion.
Even teasing your man, and making him a little “flustered” is a good way to get him involved and animated in discussion. One naughty trick that some girls try is to manipulate their man, giving him extremely hot / cold responses. One minute she’s nice and loving, the next minute she’s cold and rude. This really doesn’t work because eventually the guy figures out the girl is playing him and steps back.
But it does go to show you how powerful emotion is and how it brings everyone closer to vulnerability, and in the end, sex and romance.
Remember that turning a man on is all about getting him to chase you. Use your charm, your feminine wiles, and your wit to evoke more from him. The harder he works to please you, the more he realizes he likes you!
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
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I show you what this 5 word phrase is…
I’ll teach you about why men pull away, how to stop it from happening…
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Hi Matthew I’m Reaching Out Because All Of The Emails I’ve Been Receiving Pretty Much Describe My Relationship In Full I Can Honestly Say It’s Been The Best 3 Years Of My Life Some Of The Suggestions Listed I Hadn’t Ever Thought 2 Try Until A Few Months Ago & I’m Glad I Did However There’s 1 Thing I’m Finding A Bit Odd & I Was Hoping Maybe Your Thought On What It Is Might Be Helpful As Well
How do you attract a popular man when you’re shy?
I would like to know this as well..how do you attract a guy if you’re shy?
Look am no advisor of love and shit but what I do know is that you need to patiently he there, you have to at least make a move and become friends and maybe he will love you for you, just be you but be a little more confident and let him get to know you no matter how popular he is as long as you already know him a bit
I want life partner
Most smart people feel the same way.
When he looks your way, give a sexy shy smile then look away. Do this often but not all the time or right after you have done it. That’ll be creepy. Then(depending how shy you are) somehow give him a little note saying hi.I like your (? ie shirt) would you like to go for a coffee? let me know. then sign ur name with ur number.
Guys like when the gal makes the first move(most times) So build that confidence up. *Remember: NO ONE IS BETTER THAN YOU and YOU ARE JUST AS GOOD AS ANY ONE!
good luck
Wow thanks very much 4 all the phrases u shared with mi.
I was with someone for 9yrs. Life hit us so hard and he broke it off with me. I miss him like crazy. I haven’t called or text in the pass 30days . He did pop up during my 30 day no contact. Just wish he come home.
Hey Matt. I’m freaking out and drowning in not knowing what to do. I’ve been seeing this guy since August. Things were progressing amazingly. We were on the same page etc. In November I found out I was pregnant (with his baby obviously) and we agreed to work together to make this work. Unfortunately I miscarried. During the miscarriage (first week of December) I guess he was out one night and met this girl and asked for her number. Didn’t tell me. Then proceeded to take her out THREE TIMES without saying anything to me. No – we hadn’t had the exclusive talk but after five months of seeing and sleeping and doing relationship shit with someone you would think he would be honest. When I confronted him, he said he didn’t want to hurt me and we had been through such an emotional roller coaster.
So I found out 2 weeks ago. I gave him an ultimatum (I know, bad) me or her. He said he couldn’t decide (wtf he’s only been out with her three times) so I told him I’m walking away and when he decides he knows where to find me. We are currently on a no contact until January 2nd. I really want to give this guy a second chance. The miscarriage played a toll on both of us and before the pregnancy feelings and everything were going amazing. But now he’s full of I don’t knows and you are just a really good friend. It hurts! His actions don’t match his words. Help 🙁 please
Run… Don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing you will be there waiting … It’s complete bullshit ..he was equally hurt with your miscarriage but able to find a girl to go out with 3 times?? Don’t settle for that Maybe you should hold off on pregnancy and the second chance with this joke ..if he was invested he would have NEVER been looking out side but instead helping you heal together! Know your worth ..these dam pointers on getting a man and keeping him are about to make me hurl! It takes two .and a pair of heels won’t keep him if he can’t stay in the zone . it’s complete bull!
EXACTLY..WELL SAID..
I am in the same place as Jody kinda been dating this guy since August and everything goes good for a week. I stay at his house after he gets off work and we have a good time together. The next week he always picks s day an makes up an excuse why he wants to be alone and I am sure he is with someone else. He asked me to move in with him in an open relationship that is really what got me. I do not like sharing my men. I need help please.
Lol he did it once he will do it next time around practice self respect guys dont want trying hard ladies let him work for it wait and see let him court you again he must do effort this time let him feel you’re still the best of the best!
I want a man to fall in love and commit to me how do I do that
Hey Matt .so I am a very over jealous wife, when I see a attractive lady talking and smiling with my husband I go off. I want to desperately trust him and believe I’m the only one he wants and desires. But he is always lying or with holding the truth from me about talking to girls. Most recently this happened at the gym and I so scared to even let him go near a gym now. I tried talking even to the girl to get to know her but she pushed me off as we need to not have contact . It just seems weird. I know the devil can and will put bad feeling and thoughts in our head but this feeling want him away. When I ask him if she is pretty at first he said no then when asked in front of his guy friend he said well she is not ugly but she isn’t pretty either. But to me he says she is ugly. I’m so confused .
Your jealousy is extremely unhealthy! Of course he’s going to lie to you and tell you what he thinks you want to hear when you freak out at him over a simple conversation with another woman. You need to work on dialing back the jealousy 5 or 6 notches it sounds like. Its petty and childish. Are you a 17 year old high schooler or a mature adult woman? The only reason to be jealous is if you legitimately believe he is cheating on you.
Looks as if the guy is now feeling his neck….
You say you had not even had the exclusivity talk yet you were having unprotected sex.
So, you guys became pregnant without having made a commitment to each other.
Bringing a human being into the world is a very big deal.
It probably scared the cr– out of him and after the miscarriage he realized how close he had come to being locked down before he was ready.
He more than likely cares very much for you but he wants time to himself…to exercise his freedom, to breathe a sigh of relief.
He cannot feel all the pain and confusion you must feel as it is your body that went through such great hormonal upheaval.
He chose to cut and run in a way. So he would not have been the ideal mate for you in the first place. He may even have felt that by becoming pregnant you were trying to “trap” him into a relationship for which he was not ready or did not want.
I have a jealousy problem. My guy is very very outgoing and is well known as a cheater. Found him in bed with another woman. Should I run . We have argued every sinse.
Yess, you deserve better. Leave him alone. Go no contact 30 days. Then see how you feel.
I feel like I am at a breaking point I have been in a relationship for 6 years and as you know the beginning was great, I have never feel head over heels in love with a man ever before like this I knew right then I was gonna spend the rest of my life with him. Fast foward two years catch him talking to his ex girlfriend and yes he cheated on me in the back of a mail truck, I forgave him and continued to do everything for this person I put my own career in life on hold to help him better his. After the first time we tried to go on as normal still having sex on a regular basis and I can see red flags by now the emotional abuse didn’t get unbearable till I’d say about a year ago.when I would bring it up about him talking to his ex all he would have to say is that it’s my fault I made him do it basically that he’s told me he is unhappy with me in that he wants me out of his life. After hearing so much that a you’re not good enough it has a way of breaking you I think what sucks the most s that I keep hanging around and hoping and praying I could get this man to love me again, and being so emotionally broken I guarantee you my state of mind doesn’t help things but there are days when I try so hard and when you get knocked down or ignored it’s just another shot to the chest. To know the man I love has become so indignant and cold and sees me as this awful person sucks and to feel it’s just over and nothing left to fight for is a feeling I’d wish no.one to have to.expercience, maybe it’s time to start letting go I just don’t know how, I need to know if I can save this or it’s time cash in my chips and call it a loss,
Hannah, get out of this relationship. It’s one-sided and extremely unhealthy for you.
Then take the tIme to rebuild your self-esteem, and self-worth. Become happy within yourself, and from that inner wellbeing, you are capable of attracting a good trustworthy man.
After almost 7 years with a Narcissist, I did leave. Yes, it was hard, but so worth the inner work and the wait, for the right one. He pursued me and we’re living happily ever after.
What you have now is living hell.
My husband doesn’t want to do anything, he’s like a dead duck when it comes to sex. I love him very much but he seriously avoids sex or any dirty talk, he has NO FIRE !!. I’m thinking about leaving him. I’ve tried everything but he won’t meet me half way. He says there’s nothing wrong with us and the sex is good, but I bet to differ. once a month is Not Good !! He is 8 years older than me, I’m 51 and he’s 59 , I’ve known him for a long time and he got married March 6th of 2020. He’s said things to me like, I’ve had all the sex I needed to before I meet you. and I’ve talked dirty so much to other women I dont want to do it anymore. He pushes me away with such talk, I’ve told him it hurts. But he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong, and he loves to stare at half , if not while naked women. I’m tired and I think it’s time to go.
ive been dating this guy for 3 years where suddenly he went cold on me and started dating others.i was crushed.i want my relationship back but when i try to think how.i come up blank.i feel so lost.i ran in to him sometime back he started to stare at me,but i diddnt show any reaction towards him.but again i saw him a week later.and i walked up to say hi iam dana nice to meet yu being sarcastic some.but i still want him back.what can i do?
Matt please help!! I’ve been with my man almost 11 yrs now. He’s 47 and I’m 37. We, like all relationships, had wonderful conversations, had amazing sex, he loved spending everyday with me, or if he had something to do and I was busy and couldn’t go he’d always inform me of his plans. We were best friends, and now ALL of those things have disappeared. He’s become this cold hearted, inconsiderate, greedy, selfish, and so rude and immature person!! I mean couples have arguments right? But they talk through them and work it out. Not this man, he cannot communicate, or if we argue, it always turns into him yelling at me and calling me horrible degrading names. Constantly belittling me and makes me feel so worthless!! He’s even said to me that he is better then me!! Why do I still want to be with this immature man?? I start to ask myself what’s wrong with me? Maybe I am an idiot like he says!! Please someone help me so I can help myself! I can’t keep living in misery and pain everyday!!
leave him