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5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With.

5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.” ― Coco Chanel

Whether you’re looking for a long-term partner, or already have one, it pays to have the right habits in a relationship.

The thing about guys is that they don’t always know how to articulate what they want in their woman.

Most men weren’t exactly taught how to express their feelings while growing up. So it can be tricky sometimes for them to let their partner know about their emotional and physical needs.

And this leads to all sorts of misunderstandings and unfulfilled expectations, which can put a wedge between you two.

Luckily, I’m here to give you the inside track to how men think. Drawing from my own experience and from helping my clients, here are the Top 5 Habits That Make Men Crazy About You:

#1: Play Hard to Get

Ok, this might sound like familiar territory, but listen up.

Typically, a lot of women (and men!) try to make someone like them by putting on a detached-but-I-might-be-attracted-to-you kind of act.

Also, these women may wait for an arbitrary amount of time to reply to messages (e.g., a couple of hours, a few days, etc.) to avoid looking desperate. Worse, they’ll pretend they’re busy, hoping it’ll make a guy more interested in them.

But this approach tends to backfire.

It’s confusing – and worse, he’ll eventually see through this stilted act. This, of course, is a huge turn-off.

There’s no problem showing interest in a guy. And there’s no need in this day and age to play silly mind games.

Instead, you can play a different kind of game – one built on authenticity.

Give your guy hints that you like him, and be enthusiastic when you’re together. Experts find that a person starts falling in love with someone once they knew they wanted them.

As for the “playing hard to get” part, that means actually being busy. That’s not the empty kind of busy where you’re at home, scrolling down endlessly on your social media feed.

It’s better to be fully engaged with all the other parts of your life. You’ve got your work, social life, hobbies and other passions that make you well-rounded and happy.

If that makes you unavailable from time to time, that’s a good thing.

Richard Wiseman, author of “59 Seconds: Change Your Life in Under a Minute”, did some research on this.

He found that people who were hard to get gave the impression that they’re a scarce resource. However, they ALSO had to be enthusiastic about the other person to be attractive.

That way, it put the subject in a more balanced and attractive light.

#2: Rock His World

In a nutshell, you need to generate strong emotions within your guy while he’s with you. He’ll then associate those feelings with you, which naturally creates that spark.

In an MIT study, behavioral researchers found that people have a habit of transferring their feelings from one setting to the next.

What does this mean?

For instance, if you nearly hit another car while driving to work, you’d carry those negative vibes into the office. That previous, unrelated experience would bleed into the rest of your day.

Some call this “emotional misattribution” or “emotional leakage” – this is the human tendency to attach strong feelings to the nearest person, even if they had little to do with it.

Also, it has to do with the fact that being physically aroused can easily translate into a sexual attraction. So, if you can find a way to keep things exciting for him – like doing sports or something physically intensive – then he’ll latch those feelings onto you.

#3: Laugh at His Jokes

Admittedly, a lot of women reacted to this piece of advice with a raised eyebrow.

But hear me out – this could be a game-changer in your relationship.

First of all, you don’t need to be rolling on the floor with tears in your eyes if his jokes bombed.

A polite chuckle is perfectly fine, and that gives him the hint that he’s not funny (i.e. you’re not attracted to him).

But if your funny bone really is tingling from his witty one-liners, then go ahead and laugh.

Studies show that humor is a huge factor in sexual attraction. As you already know, women like guys who are funny because it’s a sign of intelligence (which is an attractive trait).

But recent research done by Westfield State College, University of Western Ontario, and McMaster University state that “men preferred those who were receptive to their own humor, particularly for sexual relationships.”

This seems like it’s not so much about treating a guy’s ego with kid gloves…

…and more to do with a man’s desired to be appreciated by his partner.

Trust me, I know plenty of guys who have appreciation as one of their “must haves” in a relationship. So, appreciating his sense of humor is a good step in that direction.

#4: Find Strength in Numbers

According to several studies, you can be more attractive by hanging out with your friends.

For instance, there’s research from Tilburg University in the Netherlands and the University of California that both document what’s known as the “cheerleader effect.”

This basically states that someone’s perception of you changes favorable once you’re in a group.

On the surface, you might think it’s because you’ll appear more sociable and friendly. This makes you attractive without looking like you’re trying too hard.

But there’s another angle to it. You see, the human brain has a habit of categorizing individual elements (like shapes, objects and people) into a general group.

This is mostly a hardwired survival trait to not visually focus too hard on one thing – but rather the whole picture. And this instinct spills over into a person’s social life as well.

So in a practical sense, you can set your social media (and online dating) profile picture to a photo featuring you with a group of friends. Just make sure it’s clear who you are in the picture so you don’t get lost in the sea of faces!

If you’re looking to a meet a guy in a bar or a party, make sure to bring your squad along too. Social proofing is a real phenomenon, so use it to your advantage.

#5: Appeal to His Sensual Side

There’s really no surprise here. Any guy who’s interested in women will obviously want physical intimacy in the relationship.

But you’d be surprised – and even downright concerned – how many women are lacking this department.

A lot of them take for granted the power of using their feminine charm to win a guy over.

And no, I’m not telling you to start acting out a scene from an adult film to turn a guy on.

What I am saying is that you should be more aware of a guy’s hot buttons, and learn how to push them.

For instance, women underestimate the power of physical touch.

Most men go their whole lives not knowing the pure pleasure of a validating pat on the back, a hug, or other forms of affection.

Women, on the other hand, tend to experience this on a daily basis.

So using body language is an excellent way to ignite his senses – whether it’s brushing against his arm or leg against yours “accidentally”…

…or putting your hand on his arm for a few precious seconds.

Remember, men love being teased, and the delicious pleasure of the “slow burn.”

And of course, men also appreciate variety when it comes to the main event in bed. Make an effort and take the initiative to spice things up every now and then.

Better yet, you could even go as far as asking him what he wants, then apply it in bed after (with your consent, of course). That would make for an interesting topic, don’t you think?

One more thing – there’s another trait I didn’t mention earlier, but it’s incredibly attractive to men as well.

A study done at Rutgers University found a unique psychological trait in guys that they’ve dubbed as an “emotional tripwire.”

Now, once you understand how this works – and how to use it (which is super easy by the way)…

…your guy will instantly enter a state of intense infatuation.

It’s like a splinter in his mind, and he’ll be incapable of thinking of any other women in a romantic way – except YOU.

A Trick To Make A Man Obsessed With You That Works Every. Single. Time!

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Talk soon,

Matthew Coast

 

 

 

 

 

27 thoughts on “5 Habits That Men Routinely Fall In Love With”

  1. Hey, been following you for a while.. I have a problem.. I went over my guy house.. (ride bye) . He saw me… ? Is it over

    1. Been following you. But in this article you mention women are lacking in bedroom not wanting sex. What if the man is lacking and not wanting sex with all excuses of course.

      1. Tammy, I am in that same boat! I was married for thirty years and he died suddenly. I met a man that I am very attracted to, but I don’t want a marriage. We had great sex twice, then when I invited him to move into my basement, he asked if we could still have sex.But after moving in, he said he can’t handle the stress and wants to be friends. Then a couple months later he said he wanted it. When we had sex, he couldn’t cum though. Now he said having sex was a mistake and accused me of being self-centered and upset because he won’t have sex with me. That isn’t true! I understand his ego is suffering, but I never made a big deal about it, never talked about it, and was waiting for him to say something. I wish I knrw what to say or do.

        1. He saw you as a place to stay, shower, eat etc. You’re his hotel, maid and sex when he’s feeling he should have sex with you or he’s got no one else at the time.
          You’re his backup when there’s no one else. He’s having sex with other women, using you and lying to you. Confront him though and he will deny it all and say it’s either all in your head or that you must be cheating on him. Get him out of your home and life.

          1. He could have some ED problems an its something too hard yet for him to talk about. Just another idea that could be the problem.

        2. Colleen M Kraft

          Fuck him, no not literally. Get him out your basement. There’s plenty of guys who appreciate good loving and treat you real nice. Increase your self esteem somehow. That’s what I’m doing.

          1. I agree with you Colleen no woman should lower our expectations to nobody specifically a man if he can’t deliver fine be honest with them self and don’t blame someone else.

        3. He’s sleeping with someone else, and used you for a place to live.

          I trust he has since moved out and you have moved on.

          All my best
          Tippy

      2. My husband thought we should wait til we were married before we had sex. Then he wasn’t too interested in sex on our honeymoon. We had widely different ideas of marriage. I believe from behavior he displayed that he was bisexual. We divorced. Save yourself!

  2. Just wanted to thank Matthew for being able to learn how to communicate, and understand my current husband after having had 2 failed marriages. I believe the fact that he can tell us how the wiring in a man’s brain works, makes it so easy to have a healthy, happy relationship, filled with unconditional love! FINALLY!
    Thank you Matthew!

  3. Hi Matthew my problem is different. I know my partner is messagening this woman online. The problem was she likes him he doesn’t know her they only meet online so we agree for him to play a game with her. She wants him so bad. They even talk about sex online. And every time I talked to my partner about he said he has no feelings for this woman nothing. And he said that what ever he said to her on the message its nothing to him but to me its and affair. So please how would I deal with it because I don’t trust my partner.

  4. Chris konschak

    I can’t seem to keep a man and so tired of all they want is sex I’m 57 I want a fun loving respectful relationship and I’m a happy people just want a man to add to it

    1. Heck I’m the one that’s wanting sex and he’s using all these excuses. It’s like he wants me to beg him for sex. Shoot I’m going to do what he does as far as using the excuses..

      1. I know what you mean. He talks about wanting it but then makes excuses for not doing it. I know the reason is he drinks all the time and can’t but he won’t admit to that. I just have him as a friend right now and we talk almost daily but I know there is nothing else I want from him. I am 76 and I still date and he doesn’t like it. He is so jealous. He doesn’t want me like that but he doesn’t want me to have anyone else. I figure it is his loss.

      2. Hi Tammy you dont need an American man why all they want is sex european men they take theire time in a relationship dont rush them okay give them a chance!

  5. together for almost 4 years have a 2 year old together still can’t seem to communicate when we need to the most:.:
    i try hard to be a great woman but when my needs aren’t met i struggle communicating it to him in a way he can understand rather than seeming like i’m being hard on him … advise please

  6. I think the guy should not be ashamed and should just talk to the girl about it. Sex is not always easy. Things happen. If she really loves you and I am sure she does, she will understand. There are things that can be done to help him. Communication is always key. Just talk to your partner

  7. You wait for no man, to have sex,
    Value yourself enough, to expect more,
    No man that can crawl up into your bed,
    Respects, you..
    Intimacy ladies, WA t that, with the right man..

  8. My friend put a note on a guys truck that i like,told him i like him,more then once she left a note,but the guy doesnt make a move or nothing left my number no responce at all.what do you think.

  9. I am VERY attracted to a man that is so not the type of man I would usually date. So, I said what the heck and after some flirting on both sides told him how I felt. We talked some and a few days later, well…… This was almost two months ago and since we already see each other every day (at work) things been great. Sex is more than I could ever imagine and I am VERY happy. Don’t want to lose him, but don’t want to overwhelm either.

  10. I am thoroughly interested in a guy I have known for most of my life. We have a really great friendship. He lost his wife after she had been seriously ill for 10 years..We were friends the whole time. She passed in November 2020. Women chased after him something awful. He shared that with me and said he is just not interested. We talk often. We are members of the same Nonprofit. He shares with me family things that he does not discuss with anyone else. I think that I am just one of the ‘guys’ that just happen to be a girl. Recently I spoke to him about my two ‘big brothers’ , older gentleman. He asked to be added to that list. I guess that is as good as it will get.

  11. I dated a guy 58 years old, sex is not good but I like him a lot. We went on vacation for a month and came back, I felt that he pushes me away. So I decided to leave him and he asked me not to see him again and I felt so sad I really like him as a person and his very stingy person, not a giver and a big giver person and he doesn’t like that a lot. What can I do

  12. I met this guy online and within 24 hours of matching he asked to out for a drinks had a great time – chatted for hours. A lot of laughing and yes we had a kiss. He dropped me home and no I didn’t invite him in. Sent a message to thank him the next day and he replied that he had an amazing time and looking forward to seeing me again. This carried on for a week of him initiating messages and calling (every morning he’d send me a message). We arranged to meet up twice over the course of that week )both his suggestions) and both times he had to cancel due to work reasons. He was very communicative and I met him ‘take the lead’. Then I messaged him for the first time one morning (instead of him) and he replied as normal all fine…later that day I replied to his message and basically he hasn’t read the message or replied. Ghosted me totally. Am completely confused and puzzled as he was showing interest and taking initiative. Don’t know what to do….

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