Unconditional love—is there such a thing? Is this an ideal too high to actually find in a lifetime? This might appear to be the case…
On one hand, you might love a person so much that in your mind you think this is surely unconditional love.
Then again, if you’ve ever had your heart broken, then you know firsthand how love can SEEM unconditional and pure, and then turn out to be something totally false. Maybe even faked completely.
Is there such a thing as unconditional love? After all, we live in a society where value is demonstrated by things. Money, property, fame and even something called “brand name” where everyone knows your name and reputation. Even in relationships, we observe the trade of power, so to speak. As in, your partner loves you… “as long as” all the relationship requirements are fulfilled.
For example, “I’ll love him as long as he never cheats on me.” Or, “I’ll love her as long as she doesn’t insult me or verbally abuse me.” Some couples may even have more peripheral needs like, “I’ll stay with him as long as he has a job.” Or, “I’ll stay with her as long as she keeps talking to me and helps manage my home and family.”
These all might seem like unusual needs, but they are in some cases, what keeps a couple together. The “trade off”, the definition of the relationship, in terms of value and negotiation.
The real question is, is there a type of love that goes beyond these terms and conditions? Has there ever been a kind of love that goes beyond all of these things, and one where the two lovers just seem head over heels in love with each other no matter what happens?
Of course. Of course, there have been couples who love each other unconditionally. And believe it or not, it’s not luck or a special “soul mate” connection that makes it happen. A man and woman who love each other unconditionally choose to stay in love because they share intimate things.
They share values, they share experiences, similar upbringings, morals and personality. They are very much alike in the things that really matter, and may only be different in superficial ways. Their hearts, however, are closely attuned. They may feel like soul mates who “found each other” because they are perfectly compatible. They make each other stronger, they make each other feel valued, cherished, and deeply respected.
Now I’m not saying it’s easy to find someone who matches you this closely. It is a journey and it is a project that may take months or even years of searching. However, once you find that guy, it’s easy to see that this is real love. Because real love is unconditional, it’s beyond mistakes and beyond rules and regulations.
Let’s consider four signs of unconditional love—signs that prove absolutely, you are in head over heels in love for the long-haul.
1. You both are ready to grow old with each other.
Lust and inferior forms of love are characterized by a “good for now attitude.” Unconditional love means that you both accept that good looks and perfect luck are all tentative. What matters is how well your personalities mesh, how giddy in love you make each other feel, even YEARS after the first time you meet. The feelings don’t lessen over time. Your attraction, your desire to have him in your life, only grows as time goes on. You’re not nuts about growing old (umm, most people aren’t!) but you ACCEPT it and you’re happy that you’ll always have each other, come what may. That’s something beautiful, isn’t it?
2. You both tell each other the darkest of secrets!
Everything about a short-term relationship is shallow…and especially the conversation! On the other hand, telling each other your deepest (and sometimes darkest) secrets is an amazing feeling. Every time you probe deeper, you build trust. Every time he confides in you something even more personal and unrepeatable, you bond so closely together. He’s telling you stuff he could never tell another soul! It really takes a lot of trust, and yes a lot of unconditional caring about another person, to be so nakedly honest. The more you learn to talk honestly, without a filter, the more you realize you both understand each other better than anyone else.
3. You are proud of who he IS, not who he should be.
So many short-term or doomed relationships happen based on expectations—who they need to be, for this relationship to work. On the other hand, relationships that are real and long-lasting are based on mutual respect and mutual PRIDE. You’re proud of who he is, what he does accomplish, and even the little things he does that make him unique and heroic in your eyes. When people feel appreciated in a relationship, they are much happier.
In fact, you’re so happy with each other, you don’t even bother trying to change each other into fitting into a perfect body or perfect set of rules and traits that the ideal husband ought to have (or the ideal wife for that matter). You love him for who he is, just as he loves you. Unconditionally, and always subject to change, because you want to love and support your partner, even if their goals or hobbies change.
4. You always openly communicate, without resentment.
Unconditional love is NOT about letting your partner do whatever he pleases (or him indulging you in every whim). In every relationship, there are boundaries and rules…but these rules are based on the simple desire to make your partner happy and not wanting to cause hurt or grief.
Unconditional life doesn’t mean you allow your partner to do whatever he wants, even if it breaks your heart. A partner who shares the same unconditional love will always put your needs and wants EQUAL to his own. What really defines a forever loving relationship is not a hedonistic view of desire. Rather, it’s honest communication.
You communicate everything, whether it’s how deeply you love each other, your deepest secrets and most private thoughts, as well as your disagreements. You communicate intimately and consistently, so that no resentment festers. You discuss everything and you always find a way to compromise so that both of you are happy.
You’re more eager to make up and move on beyond this argument, because this is NOT about power in the relationship, or who’s the man/woman in charge. This is about coexisting peacefully. This is something you both want because you have unconditional love in your heart.
In this love, you are free to be yourself. You are free to express yourself and free to feel secure in this relationship. You know what he’s thinking. You know his best qualities and his weaknesses and you accept them. You know him like you know yourself. He recognizes that and so he opens his heart completely to you.
Unconditional love is real. 100% real!
You CAN find it and you can turn a healthy and trusting relationship into an unconditional lifelong commitment. Learn what unconditional love really is, what it FEELS LIKE, and then refocus on meeting better quality guys who exhibit and embody these good qualities.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
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