Your Greatest Barrier to Attracting Love

Your Greatest Barrier to Attracting Love

After working with over 20 thousand people, the question we often hear most from singles is this:

“How can I attract a great relationship into my life?”

These people have struggled with dead-end relationships, or no relationship at all – they’re tired of being lonely and frustrated, and they’re just about ready to give up hope.

So much searching and yearning, and still their deepest desires remain unfulfilled.

Over and over, we’ve seen that there’s usually one overarching barrier that is standing between them and the love they so fervently want.

It’s not that they’re not getting “out there enough,” and it’s not that they’re not trying hard enough. What we’re getting at here is much deeper and more profound than any kind of dating skill.

The Secret Root Of Relationship Discontent

If you’re like any of the accomplished, intelligent, and kind singles we’ve met, we can safely say that your greatest barrier to forming and keeping genuine love… is an unloved part of you.

Before you click “delete” on this message, let us explain:

If you don’t have the love you want in your life, it’s usually because you are not loving or facing a part of you.

This could be anything from a tendency to obsess or worry, to how you feel about your body.

It could also be a personality trait you’re not too fond of. Maybe you find it difficult to love your anger, or your quirkiness. You might think you’re overly shy or overbearing.

Or, it could be something you’re ashamed of from the past. You might even think you’re fundamentally flawed and not built for love (this was Gay’s issue – he thought he was missing the “love gene” and just didn’t have what it takes to have a good relationship!)

How Lack Of Self-Love Attracts The Wrong People

When we don’t love ourselves deeply, we’re always looking for someone else to do it for us – hoping the unloved part of us will just go away. We’re demanding from others the love we’re not giving to ourselves.

So, you’d think that lack of self love would repel everyone. But that’s not the case. When we don’t love ourselves enough, we still attract partners – just not the right ones.

We simply attract other people who don’t love themselves, either!

And since deep inside we don’t believe we deserve to be loved completely, we end up pushing away the very love we want.

It’s like a dog chasing its tail. We keep running after the love we want, and we never catch it. So not only do we not feel loved, but we waste time with people who simply can’t love us – or anyone else.

The Mega Lesson Gay Needed To Learn To Attract Katie

When you love and accept yourself deeply and unconditionally for all that you are and aren’t, you attract people who love themselves.

That’s where the magic begins – and relationships become partnerships on the path to love.

Once Gay realized that he wasn’t born without a “love gene” and that he just needed to fully accept and love himself, things shifted immediately. A month later, Katie appeared in his life.

Then he realized that this lesson in self-love is a life-long lesson – we need to continue to learn it and re-learn it. Self-love is a daily practice, because it always releases deeper and deeper opportunities for self-acceptance within us.

How To Love All Of You So Someone Else Can, Too

We spend years running from the unlovable parts of ourselves. But if we learn to confront them and embrace them, enormous shifts can happen – and very quickly.

 

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Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional. Good luck!

 

About The Author

Katie & Gay Hendricks

We have two PhDs and 36 published books between us. Yet the most common question a relationship expert will ever get is this one: "What's your love life like?" We're glad you asked. Ever since we consciously attracted each other over 30 years ago, we turned our relationship into a living laboratory. We wanted to create a marriage that ran entirely on positive energy, and we developed tools to help us accomplish that every day. Since then, we've been teaching our methods to thousands of couples and singles—in our counseling offices, at our live seminars, and even on Oprah. Now it's your turn. Subscribe to our free relationship newsletter at Hearts in True Harmony.com and get our very best advice to transform your love life.

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