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Why Men Pull Away And Lose Interest (And How to Make Him Desire You Again)

Why Men Pull Away And Lose Interest (And How to Make Him Desire You Again)

If you’ve ever wondered why men suddenly pull away, even after seeming very interested in you, you’re not alone. A lot of women wonder what they did wrong, or what weird thought the guy had that would explain his strange behavior.

Hate to be the one to tell you but…it’s not that strange. Men are not quite as complicated as you might think, at least when it comes to showing a hot or cold disposition.

Let’s consider why men pull away and lose interest, at least the most often cited reasons. Then we’re going to consider how to make him desire you again, even after losing his interest.

First…

How to Lose a Guy’s Attention and Make Him Pull Away

1. Why Do Men Pull Away? You show too much emotion way too soon

Men are usually creeped out when a woman can’t control her own emotions, especially on the first few dates. Think twice about talking about the bitter past, or showing too much enthusiasm too soon, or showing insecurity as to whether or not he likes you. Showing “red flags” like these
usually paints a picture in his head of an insecure or unstable personality. Not where you want to be!

2. Why Did He Pull Away – You seem too easy to please

A man DOES want to sense that you’re into him and find him interested. But he doesn’t want to feel that you’re leading the date or that you’re “sold” on him within minutes of meeting for the first time. He wants to sense attraction, slowly building and escalating the more you interact. Treating a date as if it’s a job interview and giving all the “right answers” rather than just being yourself is not helping.

3. When guys pull away it could be that you slept with him too soon (Well duh!)

If you’ve been reading this blog for a while you know by now I’m definitely one of those coaches that discourages sex on the first date, or second or third. Don’t ever have sex, thinking that’s what will make him fall for you. If you give that intimacy away and he never actually bonded with you, he will always think of this as a sexual relationship.

4. Why Did He Pull Away? You’re trying to “force” what does not come naturally

Dates or relationships built on appearances or on predictable “steps” never have that intense level of attraction. These dates seem respectable and professional…but that’s hardly the emotion a man wants to feel when he’s dating someone.

If a man senses that you are trying very hard to be ordinary, to be perfectly logical, or to be his “idea of a perfect date”, rather than actually bonding with him he will start to lose interest. He may even sense you have an ulterior motive. You’re not being yourself – you’re acting. He senses that.

5. Men pull back when you become controlling and change your personality

As the relationship progresses, you may find yourself occasionally lapsing into unfeminine thinking patterns. That is, becoming controlling, nagging, or more needy of his attention. This naturally pushes away a man, especially if he enjoys his independence. Especially if his confidence and independent nature is what first attracted you to him. Make it a point to stay the way he likes you, as your true self. Confident, un-controlling, and only attentive to him when he’s attentive to you.

And now…

How to Get a Man’s Interest Back

1. Give him more independence and trust

When he pulls back, resist the urge to repair the relationship or redefine it so that he will stay close to you. When a man backs away a little bit, he expects you to do the same. You moving in closer will only send him a few inches farther back. If he wants independence let him. Let him find his way back to you so that he knows that is what he wants.

2. Create a desire, a reward for him to get closer to you

Remember that men sometimes get naturally bored of a friendship where there is no positive interaction. He desires some incentive, some intense emotions, if he wants to keep pursuing this relationship. Therefore, creating a desire in him to interact with you and reward him with the attention he likes is the best way to keep him coming back.

3. Communicate your feelings in a positive way.

Remember to always keep interactions positive. Negative emotions can turn a man off, even if you’re trying to bond with him. Over time he will associate you with these moments of negativity or awkward energy. That’s what you want to avoid and the best way to do this is to always keep things positive. This means favorable emotions, no backbiting or grousing about the past. He will sense that you’re happy and self-confident – that’s what will attract him to you.

4. Give him the gift of missing you.

Rather than trying to flatter him or pressure him into giving you attention, instead, give him the gift of missing you. By stepping away and not pursuing him, you remind him that you have high value and that he has to want you and work hard for your attention. You don’t need him. But now that you’re not pursuing him he is reminded of how much happier he was when he was with you. This is what actually motivates him to come back – making him realize that he wanted this relationship in the first place. Men are happier when they lead, when they make the first move, and when they follow through with it.

5. Spend more time focusing on self-improvement and less time on HIM.

Finally, if you ever sense that you feel overwhelmed by him and that he seems smarter, funnier or more “whatever” than you are, then know it’s just a toxic lie! You don’t have to pretend to be someone else. You don’t have to feel insecure. Rather than fake your way through a relationship, spend some quality time focusing on improving yourself.

Make the changes you want, the things in life that ARE worthwhile and that fill you with good feelings and proud feelings – a true sense of accomplishment. Refocusing your life goals and concentrating on being that “better person” that you’ve always wanted to be is the best way of improving your magnetism. Get more men interested in you and your confidence goes up naturally.

As we’ve discussed, the key issue is in giving him the positive experiences and interactions that he craves, before he starts associating you with negative or awkward energy. Men are so hard to figure out, just not always forthright about telling what they want. But men do want more or less the same thing: a partner that makes them feel valued, gives them positive energy, and encourages interaction. It’s always nice to find a friend that brings out your “best side”. If that friend is also attractive, that’s when sparks fly.

Have you ever wondered how the male mind REALLY works?

Why some women get to experience true love and
companionship, while others have to put up with men who
lose interest?

I’m not easily impressed, but this video is incredibly
eye-opening and accurate:

==> Why Men Lose Interest

If you’ve ever felt unappreciated, ignored, or shut out
by a man, then you really need to watch this video right
now:

==> Why Men Lose Interest

Kind regards,

Matthew Coast

P.S. Make sure that you watch this video while it’s still
online.

It teaches you some amazing things about how the male
mind works, and how to be thought of as a desirable woman
who truly ‘gets him’

==> How to be thought of as desirable

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 thoughts on “Why Men Pull Away And Lose Interest (And How to Make Him Desire You Again)”

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