After coaching women for 10 years on dating and acquiring data meticulously I can say unequivocally that finding a high quality man and then keeping him are both equally difficult. Today, I want to focus on how to keep him. But, this advice will also be relevant for women trying to find a great guy because this skill set /personality trait will have men gravitating towards you.
Without further ado, here is the one piece of advice you will ever need to keep a man forever.
Be the Calm in his life.
If you bring him serenity, he will always come back to you whether to celebrate a raise, move pass tragedy, or laugh with over something silly.
Let’s dive deeper:
- If You Love him accept him for who he is. If he loves to play video games and you hate them, give him a high five when he beats a level.
- Push Men Into Their Man Cave So They Can De-Stress Themselves. If he had a terrible day at work, tell him to go get a beer with his buddies. When he comes home, be excited to see him and give him a big wet one as if he just slayed a dragon in your honor. (Men distress by knowing his woman is happy or by taking his mind off of whatever is bothering him)
- NEVER EVER NAG but always have clear well communicated boundaries that you get your man to deliver what you need to be in a happy relationship.
Example: You have been dating for awhile and it has been months since your man has asked you on a formal date.
Don’t Say “We never do anything together, why don’t you take me on dates?”
Do Say, “Honey, you would make me the happiest girl on the planet if you would schedule a hot date for us next week? Would you do that for me?” (Maybe even throw in a wink or air kiss for some added flirtation)
“But Mike, I thought men were attracted to wild and exciting women?”
Yes, men are attracted to these women. They we will date them, have sex with them, and maybe even repeat this process for awhile. But men who are looking for a life partner want someone who is calm, stable, and lowers their stress level by freeing/accepting/and pushing them towards activities to de-stress while also challenging the man via words of appreciation to get exactly what is needed in the relationship.
There it is ladies, if you are cool chick that sends him out the door to hang out with his buddies, NEVER NAGS, and make him the best boyfriend on the planet by telling him what to do via starting sentences with “You will make me the happiest woman alive if” then you will be irresistible and keep him forever.
Couple all this with over communicating to proactively prevent misunderstandings and fights and this men will realize you are not perfect but you are definitely perfect for him!