My boyfriend is going to Amsterdam with his friends. I do trust him but I know what happens on lads holidays. should I be worried?

Relationship Questions and AdviceCategory: General Dating QuestionMy boyfriend is going to Amsterdam with his friends. I do trust him but I know what happens on lads holidays. should I be worried?
Anonymous asked 2 years ago

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Matthew Coast answered 2 years ago

Hi, thanks for the question.
 
Obviously, I don’t know you or your boyfriend or your relationship. I’m can’t predict the future and I have no idea what your boyfriend is going to do in Amsterdam. There are a lot of reasons to go there outside of the red light district.
If you can trust him normally and there’s no reason to worry about him in normal situations, you probably don’t have much to worry about while he’s there either.
 
AND… let me tell you this… whether there is something to worry about or not, here’s the deal…
 
There’s NOTHING you can do about it. He’s going to do whatever he’s going to do there… just like when he’s not around you normally. And there’s not a thing that you can really do about it other than be the amazing, awesome woman that you are and tell him to go have a good time and that you’d love to hear about it when he gets back.
 
Just don’t worry about it. Obviously, you don’t want to act blind or stupid… don’t turn a blind eye to red flags and all that jazz… but you’re better off being the cool, understanding girlfriend than the freaked out, over protective crazy woman at home.
 
Most women freak out about little things… if you want to have a guy who can be open with you, talk to you about anything, and feels like you’re so amazing that he’d never want to do anything to screw it up, be the type of woman who doesn’t freak out about things.
 
Anyway, back to the point… no, I don’t think you should worry about it. I think you should trust him. I think you should be the awesome girlfriend that he wouldn’t ever want to cheat on because he doesn’t want to ruin something with the most amazing woman he’s ever dated.