If you do manage to truly connect on a primal, safe, intimate level- but a break up occurs anyway, do those feelings ever go away? In other words, if you manage to get him to see you as "the one"- does that ever really change?

Relationship Questions and AdviceCategory: Make Him Fall in LoveIf you do manage to truly connect on a primal, safe, intimate level- but a break up occurs anyway, do those feelings ever go away? In other words, if you manage to get him to see you as "the one"- does that ever really change?
Anonymous asked 2 years ago

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Matthew Coast answered 2 years ago

Hi, thanks for the excellent question. The answer to it is…
 
It depends. And here’s why…
 
If a guy feels like you’re “the one” a breakup could still occur for a multitude of reasons. He might feel like he’s not ready for you in his life yet. He might feel like it’s just not working no matter how much he feels like you should be together.
 
And eventually, he could end up feeling that way again for another person. That’s why a lot of people prefer to use the terminology of “soulmate” instead of “the one.”
 
If he’s never felt that way about someone before you, it’s unlikely that he’ll feel that way again. There are some segments of society where men are encouraged a lot more to connect with others in deep emotional ways. And if he’s a part of that particular segment of society then its very possible that he’ll feel that way for another.
 
But getting back to your question. Yes, he’ll probably keep that feeling for you for the rest of his life, even if he never feels like he can get back together or be with you ever again (which is very possible as well).
 
There are a number of reasons he could feel this way about you and still avoid being in a relationship… like if he has outside pressure condemning him to be together with you or if he feels like being with you is too much to deal with and he’d rather be with someone he feels he could manage more.
 
So, even if he feels like you’re “the one,” if he doesn’t feel like he can or should be with you, he may never end up getting back together with you for those particular reasons. And if he doesn’t believe in “the one” he may end up staying out of the relationship simply because he doesn’t have that type of fatal viewpoint and believes that maybe there will be another who he will feel that way for again in the future.