Thanks for the compliment. I’m glad you’re enjoying the newsletter.
You need to be really careful here Michi. You’ve had a friend who told you this guy is an “a hole”… you know that he doesn’t go for girls like you. That doesn’t mean he won’t fall for you. It just means that you need to make sure you aren’t ignoring red flags because of the dream that you have of what could happen.
Let me tell you something about yourself that you may or may not already know. When you’re attracted to someone… like you start to “feel it”… you fall for him… you get those butterflies in your stomach… whatever you want to call it.
When you’re attracted to a guy, you brush off things that you may normally look at as red flags. He might say something that you would normally categorize as an “a hole” thing to say… but since you’re attracted to him you think it’s cute, charming, funny, etc.
The other thing is that you haven’t given me any indication that he’s into you or that he’s made any moves on you or anything like that. Looking you in the eyes could be a number of different things including simply the fact that he’s confident. And letting down his walls doesn’t mean anything other than he feels comfortable around you… not that he’s romantically interested.
I also don’t know how you would know that he “almost panics” when he knows you’re there but can’t see you… did you catch him looking for you but not seeing you and almost panicking? It sounds a little bit like you may be romanticizing your interactions with him.
You didn’t tell me what it is that you want here so I’m just going to leave you with this… the people we tend to get in the most trouble with (by that I mean falling for hard and then ending up with a broken heart) are the people who we feel the most attracted to… it’s the people who we feel like are out of our league and don’t know why they’d be into us in the first place.
Make sure you pay attention to red flags and ask other people about it… people who you know will be straight forward and honest with you. If you get a few people who tell you that you’re getting yourself into a bad situation, listen to them.
And make sure you do everything that I normally talk about… asking about deal breakers, making sure he’s relationship oriented, etc. Avoiding having real conversations about these topics and ignoring red flags is what gets most women into bad situations.
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