How do I work out the effesiveness of a man divorced twice, 5 years in each marriage, single over 30 years in his early 70's to trust me? I am widowed from a 25 year happily married relationship of complete committment and open to a new relationship.

Relationship Questions and AdviceCategory: CommitmentHow do I work out the effesiveness of a man divorced twice, 5 years in each marriage, single over 30 years in his early 70's to trust me? I am widowed from a 25 year happily married relationship of complete committment and open to a new relationship.
Anonymous asked 2 years ago
1 Answers
Matthew Coast answered 2 years ago

Hi, thanks for the question.
 
I just looked up “effesiveness” and it officially isn’t a word so I’m not really sure what you were attempting to say in the first sentence there.
 
As far as getting a guy to trust you, here’s the deal…
 
You can’t get him to trust you. If he has trust issues, those are his issues that he has to deal with.
 
And if he’s 70 years old and he still has trust issues, you have one of two options… you can either accept him for who he is and be with a man who has trust issues… or you can leave him and find someone who you can accept.
 
But my suggestion is that you stop trying to get him to trust you. If he doesn’t trust you and won’t trust you, that’s an issue that he has that HE has to work through. There’s no amount of anything that you can do to get him over the trust issue that he has.
 
And if he’s 70 years old, there’s a good chance that trust problem is going to be with him for the rest of his life. And unless he specifically tells you that he wants you to help him through it, leave him alone and let him has his issues.
 
Either accept him for the trust issue man that he is or go find a man who you can accept.
 
Good luck,
 
Matt