Drawing him back in

Heather asked 4 months ago

Hi,
I’ve been on 3 dates so far with an incredibly amazing man all around. I’d love to continue a relationship with him and he has acted as though he feels the same way until all of a sudden I didn’t hear much from him one day, now the second day not at all. We had discussed a date this weekend earlier in the week but now I don’t know what’s happening. I’ve tried my hardest to stay true to giving him distance. I sent him a good morning text this morning and nothing more (although it’s killing me!). How can I draw him back in?! He’s told me he desires marriage so he’s not afraid of commitment, in fact he’s divorced. Could this be a factor? What should I do? How do I bring him back? We share religious values and have been taking things slow. We’ve gotten to know each other well and I’M ready to become exclusive with him, and no THOUGHT he was too.  Is he? How do I know? How do we talk about this? And how do I draw him back to me? I’ve used love languages and bits of everything I’ve learned and they all seemed to really work! Help!!

Heather replied 4 months ago

Also, should I send him a text to trigger his hero instinct by saying “I need your help” with something he would be really good at?

Tabitha Pratt replied 4 months ago

Not until he reaches out to you first!

Tabitha Pratt replied 4 months ago

Not until he reaches out to you first!

Tabitha Pratt replied 4 months ago

Not until he reaches out to you first!

Heather replied 4 months ago

I’m sure this is just the feminine/masculine difference but aren’t I showing disinterest by letting it go?

Tabitha Pratt replied 4 months ago

Not if you respond when he reaches out…

1 Answers
Tabitha Pratt answered 4 months ago

Heather,
Hi sweetie! 
I believe that I answered this one already on a different thread, but I will point out a few more things below that I\’ve noticed in your question above.
While you may be ready for exclusivity with this guy, he may not. Generally, masculine males take a longer time going from A-Z! They literally move from A to B to C, etc. and females tend to move from first date (A) to dreaming of the wedding and picking out kids names (Z). There is nothing wrong with your feminine style, but you must understand men. I promise it will help you so so much!
First Rule to Understanding Masculine Men? You can NEVER, EVER control them!
Keep leaning back and don\’t initiate, you literally have no idea what he is going through on his end. Your imagination will make up all kinds of stories, at least make them good!  🙂