Part of the reason we have this website is to “equal the playing field” for women, since the reality of it is, a LOT of men play mind games. They “seduce”, they manipulate and they use a lot of player techniques to their advantage. Well what we’re doing is giving you some of your own techniques to stand strong against their mind games and seduction strategy, and force them to “be real” if they want a chance with you.
Now obviously, there are a lot of guys out there who don’t play mind games and who just try earnestly to impress you and charm you, with no ulterior motives. And for those guys, naturally, you don’t want to “play them” or risk hurting their feelings. With men who are sincere, you give a little more sincerity. With men who like to play, you play them right back!
What might help is to determine immediately if you are being played and then figure out what to do about it. Here are a few ways to read your crush’s mind.
1. He always keeps you on the defensive trying to get the upper hand.
A player’s intention is to encourage competition from the woman he likes. He teases, he brags…it almost feels like he’s arguing with you in a “playful” way. He always makes you rise to the bait. A woman who doesn’t play games knows the best way to deal with him: Don’t try to get the upper hand. Just resist playing into his game and keep him working for your attention.
2. He makes you work hard for his approval.
A player basically reverses the process. He plays hard to get so that you’ll work harder to gain his attention and approval. He’s manipulating you to prove your worthiness to him. But this is the wrong approach. HE should be trying to prove his worthiness to you. If he tries to “qualify” you, just don’t play the game. A woman doesn’t chase.
3. He gives you back handed compliments.
Yes, this is a “thing” in the player community. They say nice things to women…and then send them a back handed compliment. This “neg hit” or “negging” technique plays on the insecurity of women and manipulates them into chasing the man, looking for his approval. But if you want to be a stronger and more attractive woman, just don’t play into this. Show him that “neg-hitting” is an insult and you won’t tolerate it.
4. He takes rejection too personally and lashes out.
You know a guy is a player if he insults you or says something nasty when you say “No”. Even if he pretends to do it in good fun, it’s very telling about his character. So whenever you say no, is he always going to make it seem like you’re at fault? Is he trying to guilt you into saying yes? You should remind him that lashing out just because you can’t afford to say at this very moment is not respectful of women. You deserve better.
5. He stands you up or keeps you waiting in text.
Really, any man who would stand you up is just messing with your head. He’s either testing your reaction or is just a disorganized mess in general. Showing up late or not showing up at all is a very disrespectful move. If you forgive him for this once, you’re just going to set a pattern of negative behavior from him that will keep you feeling frustrated.
6. He only seems to want to meet in certain parts of town or certain restaurants/clubs.
If he’s always comfortable in his own element, it probably means he’s crafted the perfect play over a lifetime of practice. If you really want to see who he is, bring him out of his element. Force him to be real and don’t let him feel so comfortable that he just memorizes cheesy lines. Test him and make him want you more than just another play.
7. He’s too hot and cold.
Players thrive off the insecurity of women, so their intent is to be hot one minute and cold the next. It keeps you guessing and makes you curious as to what’s behind their moody behavior. (Or else maybe they’re just really moody and miserable to be around!) In either case, don’t tolerate it. He should always be “hot” and avoid being cold, distant or mean-spirited in his replies to you. If he’s disinterested that’s that. Don’t let him be interested one minute and disinterested the next. He needs to make up his mind.
8. He’s always flirting with other girls.
Maybe it’s in a man’s nature to always be looking at other women. But if he’s constantly flirting with other women, throwing out compliments, neg-hitting, getting phone numbers, and acting single (even when he supposedly is really interested in you) it’s easy to see he doesn’t value your time. To him, you’re just one of many options. If you want to be taken seriously, let him know you that you’re too busy to be just another girlfriend.
9. He lies and always has excuses for disappointing you.
Seriously, this is bad news. Some men may be players just for a little while, early on, right in the getting to know you stage. But men who lies and constantly come up with excuses, defenses and rationalizations as to why they’re hurting you are dangerous. These are the same types of guys who end up abusing you, cheating on you, and generally making life miserable. Let it be known immediately that lying and making excuses is not, and never will be, tolerated with you.
10. Lastly, always be receptive to friends and family when it comes to hearing about your crush’s reputation.
Women tend to gossip and share their “player-hating” experiences. Family members may also recognize player techniques and can warn you about what you’re getting into.
Remember, value your time and always be proud of who you are. This makes you “player proof”!
Words That Connect Straight to a Man’s Heart And Form An Unbreakable Bond
Today I want to give you some words that you can tell your man that will make him want to give you the relationship you’ve always dreamed he’d have with you…
These words form something I call a “Love Frame” that make a man feel like it’s his mission in life to treat you like a queen.
If you’re struggling to get your man to “step up” and give you the romance you’ve always wanted, you need to watch this video right now…
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These words will work on him even if…
…your man is pulling away from you or ignoring you completely…
…you think you got intimate with him too soon…
…or you feel like your situation is hopeless…
Because once you understand it…
You’ll be able to trigger a flood of emotion throughout his body that melts away all resistance…
Making him see you as the perfect woman for him…
A woman that he wants to pursue, fight for, and be with from now until the end of time…
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Talk soon,
Matthew Coast
P.S. Try out these seemingly innocent yet strangely powerful words on the man in your life and seem how quickly things change with him…
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Good idea
This looks like the exact script that a guy I know reads from. I’ll save this one forever, just so I don’t accidentally fall for his “plays” in a weak moment.
Well women is no different then men.
So how would we know if a woman is playing?
How is being a “player” different from narcisstic behavior?
I’d avoid using the “narcissistic” label… it’s so overused and misused that it doesn’t really mean anything anymore.
Hi Matthew, I’ve never heard of the word narcissism before, but I’m well aware of the actions of narcissistic people that came into our family growing up. They were some of the worst men and thankfully most of us have overcome that. But they have left devastation in our lives that we each work through every day and try to go on with our normal lives as best we can. I had a very long marriage with one of these men, he’s gone now and I’m working on keeping my life together every day! I met him in my very early teens. I’ve had to question myself whether this behavior could be in me also. I’ve been told by a professional that I’m definitely not, and that’s great to know! I believe the word is overused also but what other word could be used in place? I’m working on how to heal and go on with my life. I occasionally watch your videos and find some of them useful. ThankYou!
I’ve met a guy for almost two years. He has played with my emotions. Sometimes he wants serious and sometimes not. He still asked when he said he wanted to be with me but then he ignored me and came back to me. Have used me by Forewer women chase frame but it does not work wrote until he is so sexy when you open up to me know me so close. He does not open my sms when I write has been so long time. He hears when it suits him. Asked what I had done to him? He wrote hit a girl I like. I wrote when we finish it all. He wrote good luck. Know me so angry and sad no more. Still think so much if he doesn’t know what to do? need tips on how to do, tired of guys just disappearing from me.. Can not help I like this guy.
When a guy you have known for 26years, shows you, not tells you, that you matter, but then goes in this great “cold” way, why?? He is a introvert, but one minute he tells you he misses you and then another minute says ” We are not in a relationship ship. Just 2 best friends having amazing adventures.” Yet his best friend thinks he loves you. What gives?? He is towards at the end of a divorce, has 3 kids and we both work for the same company at different buildings. Am I wasting my time?? I am and he is not looking for marriage, yet the text after he is not going anywhere?? Really confused
There’s nothing to be confused about. He told you exactly his intentions… he doesn’t think this is a relationship and he’s not looking for marriage. He’s getting his needs met from you without taking care of your needs. You’re worth more than that.
I’ve met a guy for almost two years. He has played with my emotions. Sometimes he wants serious and sometimes not. He still asked when he said he wanted to be with me but then he ignored me and came back to me. Have used me by Forewer women chase frame but it does not work wrote until he is so sexy when you open up to me know me so close. He does not open my mess when I write has been so long time sometimes. He hears when it suits him. Asked what I had done to him? He wrote hit a girl I like. I wrote when we finish it all. He wrote good luck. Know me so angry and sad no more. Still think so much if he doesn’t know what to do? need tips on how to do, tired of guys just disappearing from me.We have no talk in one Weeks .
I met a guy almost 4years now he got lost for two years en he came back again n he told me to start newly with him n we started but now wen I send message on wats up he don’t reply I call him he don’t pick he always complain of being busy at work.he told me mbu he love but he don’t respect ma feelings too as a partner.wat can I do.did he really come back for love oba something else??