Are you looking to get back into a relationship with your ex?
Here’s how to know if the relationship you were in is worth getting back into…
1. Were the two of you in a healthy relationship together?
Whenever I hear someone wanting to get back into an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, it makes me want to cringe.
If you didn’t have a healthy relationship last time, you’re not going to have a healthy relationship this time.
If you did have a healthy relationship last time and something just went wrong, getting back into the relationship might be a better option.
2. Did you break up because things just weren’t working out?
If you broke up because of a deal breaker, meaning something that is extremely important to the two of you… like one person wanted kids and the other didn’t… then getting back together is a bad idea.
However, if you broke up because things just didn’t seem to work out, you just didn’t seem to get along, or one or the both of you stopped “feeling it” that’s something you can fix.
3. Is he open to being in a relationship?
Sometimes, I get women who come to be and want to get back together with someone who they were in a casual, “friend with benefits” type relationship with.
If he didn’t want to be a REAL relationship with you in the first place, getting back together with him isn’t a good idea.
But if you had more than just a casual fling, that’s something you can get back into and strengthen.
4. Did you initially have strong attraction or a strong connection?
The stronger the attraction was between the two of you at any point, the easier it will be to get that type of attraction back.
If he was really into you before, there’s a good possibility that he’ll be into you again.
5. Are you willing to give up self-righteousness, blame, and excuses in order to have him back?
Most breakups happen because at least one of the two people is very stubborn and refuses to apologize or admit that they were wrong.
They tend to blame the other person for their actions which only further pushes them away.
If you’re willing to let go on being right, blaming others, and making excuses, there’s a good chance that you can get back together with your ex.
If not, it’s very unlikely that it will ever work out.
Why You Can’t Win Back Your Ex…
If you’ve tried getting back together with your ex, you know that it can seem impossible… but here’s the thing…
I’ve been coaching in the dating industry for over 12 years and I’ve seen literally hundreds of people break up and get back together.
And whenever a woman gets back together with her ex, it’s because she’s realized one very specific thing…
Here it is:
It’s not about HER.
You see, guys rarely break up with a woman because they don’t like the woman (even if that’s what he says in the heat of the moment).
Most of these guys happily jump back into a SEXUAL relationship with that woman.
If it was about the woman, this would NEVER happen.
Instead, it’s about something much more important to him…
And if you fix this one thing, you can make him putty in your hands and get him pursuing you for a REAL relationship again.
If you want to know what that one thing is, I created a video for you to help explain it…
Getting back together with a man isn’t complicated as long as you understand what’s REALLY going on.
If you make it about you, you’ll just drive him away even further.
But if you understand what the real problem is, you can have him back before you know it…