If you meet a guy (or already know one) and you want to make him pay more attention to you so that it can possibly lead to something more, read this article very carefully.
A lot of women accidentally push men away when they’re attempting to pull them in closer and they don’t even realize they’re doing it.
In fact, if a man isn’t attracted to you, all of your attempts to connect with him more or deeper will actually backfire and make it less likely that he’ll want to be with you.
The first thing you need to do is…
Stop Using Attraction Strategies that Don’t Work
First, I want to warn you about some techniques that you may be using that are more likely to push a man away than make him more attracted to you.
The first attraction strategy that you might be tempted to use is something I call, “The Super Nice Girl.”
When you’re trying to make friends with someone new, an effective strategy is to be sweet, nice and kind.
And it would make sense that if you want a guy to be attracted to you that you might want to use a similar strategy… maybe even taking it up a notch.
This might look like buying a man a gift, doing something for him, giving him a lot of compliments, or trying to help him with his life’s problems.
If you act this way towards a man before you’ve created attraction with him, you’re more likely to make him want to distance himself from you than you are to get him to like you more.
This can only work once you’re already in a relationship with a guy… if it’s toned down a bit. Before that, it just comes off as too much too soon.
The second ineffective strategy that I want to warn you about is the “friend with benefits” attraction technique.
This is attempting to make a guy like you more by seducing him and giving him sex.
Statistics have shown that taking a “friend with benefits” type relationship and turning it into a commitment works less than 1 out of 9 times.
While being with a man sexually may make YOU feel closer and more connected to him, men can be in a casual relationship with a woman for years and never feel like she’s anything more to him than a sexual partner.
And the last technique that you need to avoid is something I call, “the confession.”
The confession is when you tell a man how you feel about him in an attempt to get him to see how wonderful the two of you could be together.
What you may not know is that, to a man, when you confess your feelings for him like this, he feels like you’re beginning to pursue him.
And while he might be flattered by your interest, when he feels like you’re starting to pursue him, he’ll feel like you’re coming on too strong and completely lose any interest in pursuing you.
If a man doesn’t pursue you, he won’t feel invested in your potential relationship enough to ever commit to you.
These three strategies will make you come across as “needy” to a man, even if you don’t feel that way.
If you want to get a guy to feel attracted to you in a way that will lead to something deeper and more fulfilling, you need to learn…
How to Attract a Man the Right Way
After teaching in the dating industry for over a decade and helping thousands of women get into loving, committed, lasting relationships, I’ve found that there’s something very specific that you need to do if you want a man to feel attracted to you in a way that will lead to something more.
Here it is:
You need to connect with his emotions.
No amount of convincing, pleading, begging or sex will ever get a guy to like you and want something more with you… IF you don’t also connect with his heart.
A man has to feel like you’re “relationship material.” And most men can usually tell if a woman is someone he could be with in a lasting relationship within the first few minutes of meeting her.
So if you want him to feel like you’re exactly who he’s looking for, you need to make sure that you aren’t accidentally sabotaging your chances with him.
If you’d like to find out what’s stopping you from attracting the right man into a committed, lasting relationship, take my quiz.
It’s free and based on your answers to just a few questions, I can help you determine exactly what your biggest obstacle is and what you need to do differently in order to attract the man and the relationship you want in your life.
Disclaimer: Results will vary, and you should not use this information as a substitute for help from a licensed professional. Good luck!