I wanted to answer some of the most popular questions that I get about how to get your ex back if that’s what you’re looking to do…
Question 1: What if he’s dating someone else?
I can understand how this might look. But here’s the thing…
When the two of you broke up, there was a gap created where intimacy used to be between the two of you.
This gap creates a vacuum like suction and your ex is probably trying to fill it by getting emotionally intimate with another person.
While this may seem really bad, “rebound” relationships statistically don’t last very long.
If you’ve dated anyone else recently, you may know how difficult it can be to get to the same level of intimacy as you had with your ex.
What tends to happen in these situations is that things will be great initially and then quickly turn sour after a very short period of time.
Once that happens, it can be very easy for you to be there to connect with him in a way that would take another woman months, if not years, to do.
You have an advantage. You already know him to a deeper and more intimate extent than just about any other woman does.
And while you may have some negative emotions around each other right now, the bond that you created from dating each other is much more powerful than the fleeting feeling of attraction some new girl might have with him.
So, the answer is “Yes”… you can still get your ex back even if he’s seeing someone else.
Question 2: What if he’s angry at me?
Anger is a pretty common emotion to have after a breakup, especially if there was a lot of blame being thrown around at the end.
And believe it or not, anger is a good emotion for him to have. If he’s angry, that means he still cares.
He may just need to cool down a bit before you can have a positive interaction with him again.
There are also ways that you can respond to his anger which will diffuse it and make him feel open to having a more positive relationship together sooner.
Question 3: What if it’s been a really long time since we broke up?
I get this asked to me all the time. But here’s the thing…
This really isn’t a problem. I’ve seen women get back together with men after years of being broken up.
In fact, I’ve even see it go out as far as a decade and two people were still able to get back together with each other.
A woman in my family accomplished that one. If the two of you had a strong level of emotional intimacy or emotions were high during the relationship, he may have never gotten that with another woman and still feels like it’s missing from his life.
If it’s been a really long time, that may even work to your advantage because he may have let go of a lot of the reasons why he broke up with you in the first place.
There are a lot of people out there who wish they wouldn’t have broken up with someone they cared about years afterwards.
If this is his situation, he may want to get back together more than you realize.
Question 4: Should I get back together with my ex?
If you want to get him back because you two are really great together and just had some rough times, that’s a good reason.
If you think that the problems you had could be resolved and overcome, that’s another great reason.
But if you’re just looking to get back together because it would make you feel better, because you want to get back at him for something he did to you, or because you’re lonely, those are not good reasons.
What are your reasons for wanting to get back together?
If you DON’T have good reasons, the likelihood that you’ll stay together even if you get him back is very low.
If you DO have good reasons, you can create an even BETTER relationship than the one you had before… you just need to know how to do it.
Don’t get back into a relationship where there was mental, physical, or emotional abuse taking place, on either side.
Do get back together with someone if you really care about each other but just had some problems you couldn’t resolve.
Question 5: Can I really get him back?
If you’ve tried getting back together with your ex, you know that it can seem impossible… but here’s the thing…
I’ve been coaching in the dating industry for over 12 years and I’ve seen literally hundreds of people break up and get back together.
And whenever a woman gets back together with her ex, it’s because she’s realized one very specific thing…
Here it is:
It’s not about HER.
You see, guys rarely break up with a woman because they don’t like the woman (even if that’s what he says in the heat of the moment).
Most of these guys happily jump back into a SEXUAL relationship with that woman.
If it was about the woman, this would NEVER happen.
Instead, it’s about something much more important to him…
And if you fix this one thing, you can make him putty in your hands and get him pursuing you for a REAL relationship again.
If you want to know what that one thing is, I created a video for you to help explain it…
Getting back together with a man isn’t complicated as long as you understand what’s REALLY going on.
If you make it about you, you’ll just drive him away even further.
But if you understand what the real problem is, you can have him back before you know it…