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A man will commit to you when he continually feels like this…

A man will commit to you when he continually feels like this…

Can you remember the feeling of what it is like to fall in love for the first time? For a man, he starts out with an intense feeling of joy.

He feels more enthusiastic about his future. He feels like he’s more connected to all of the love in the world, even when she’s not around.

Whenever he thinks of you, he’s overwhelmed by the rush of positive feelings that flow through his body. He begins to appreciate every part of you… your neck, you lips, your hair, and all the perfect imperfections that you have.

You seem magical to him… glowing, radiant. He fantasizes about being with and kissing you.

He’s in love… sound familiar?

Here’s the thing though… he wants you to feel the exact same way about him that he feels for you. So, he’ll do a lot of different things in an attempt to impress you.

This may sound well and good. Except what happens next really depends a lot on how you respond to him.

For many women, this is when their fears and insecurities start taking over. If you start acting insecure or the way you respond to him doesn’t allow him to maintain his masculine identity, the chemistry he feels will quickly fade.

A man only wants to be in a relationship with a woman if both of these things remain true:

  1. He must feel like the woman he’s with is a valuable catch… like she’s someone worth pursuing and having in a relationship, and…
  2. He must be allowed to maintain his masculine identity… the woman he’s with must respect and appreciate him as a man.

Did you know that a man’s testosterone (you know, the male sex hormone) is linked to how he acts and the way the people treat him?

If he feels like you’re emasculating him, attempting to change him, or don’t feel like you’re worthy of being with him, he’ll quickly lose all of his feelings for you and he’ll disappear, like salt in water.

And you can attempt all of the methods that most women mistakenly use to get a guy to like you again. Things that NEVER work… you know, stuff like buying him presents, telling him how much you like him hoping it will convince him to feel the same way, or being a really, really good friend to him.

None of it will make any difference though. And all of the while, you may not even know what you did! It could have been something as simple as the tone of voice you used when you talked with him.

Why? Because most of this stuff happens unconsciously… your intentions might be positive but if underneath all of your good intentions is insecurity, it will leak out of you without you ever knowing.

Instead, you want a man to keep feeling in love with you. You want him to feel like you’re exactly who he has been looking for his entire life.

When a man feels like that towards you, he’ll not only stay in love, he’ll start showing you signs of wanting a commitment, and may even directly ask for one. I’ve seen a man who seemed like he was never going to settle down completely switch and ask a woman to commit to him for life after a week of feeling like this.

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11 thoughts on “A man will commit to you when he continually feels like this…”

  1. Hey Matthew,

    Thank you for adding me on google plus! Love the article. You stressed some great points on women chasing men, buying them presents and so forth to get a man to commit, that never works. Doing things the man should do, which is not a woman’s place. Call me old fashioned, but that is how I feel.

    What was interesting is what you described as the what men feel when they’re in love is how I feel at this very moment. Things could change tomorrow, who knows…Lol. I no longer feel the need to seek or rush to commit to anyone just to say I’m in a relationship. At first, I thought something was wrong with me. Over a year of feeling like this, I realized I want more, and what people are serving on a plate is just a sampler, which is not enough for me. Maybe, like the man you described, he feels like she is not worthy of him, that is what I’m coming to realize. It almost seemed like a lonely existence at first, but this is the most peaceful I’ve ever been. Letting go and not just accepting what walks into your life.

    So on the note of commit, women are quick to want commitment, but what exactly are you so enamored by that you would want to commit to someone without truly evaluating past the generic conversation that is just based on value, i.e. great job, car, money, sex and no kids. You want someone to take care of you? If you can’t find a way to do it yourself, how do you expect to attract a different type of man who is not like you? As you stated so plainly here, “Why? Because most of this stuff happens unconsciously… your intentions might be positive but if underneath all of your good intentions is insecurity, it will leak out of you without you ever knowing.”

    Just a thought for all those who are so eager for commitment, and afraid of looking at yourself first. It’s a great place to start.

  2. Hello Matthew,
    Thank You for adding me on Google. Love your article and shared it because we both believe that everyone should experience love on that level.
    If you don’t have all the tools you stumble… Thank you for writing somthing worth sharing that everyone should be able to understand..

  3. In a toxic relationship, you won’t feel accepted, your partner will have little tolerance for your negative qualities, and he may shame you and belittle you for them.

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