What are the things that most men test a woman for?
We mostly hear about women “testing” men since women tend to be more cautious when it comes to relationships. But men test women too, absolutely.
Now we should note that not all testing is manipulative or negative. Sometimes we all “test” our partner just to get a glimpse into how their mind works and how they might respond in a hypothetical situation. Testing your man may help you to change or confirm your feelings for him, based on what you can see about his morality, strength of character and so on.
Men test women for the same reasons and their tests tend to be conversation-driven and sometimes very subtle.
On the other hand, as the relationship progresses, their final “tests” can be far more confusing and sometimes hurtful. But if you really love your man, you will pass his tests and become the true love of his life. So let’s discuss some of these scenarios, from the mini-tests early on to the final “cold feet” tests later.
7 Ways That Men Test Women in a Relationship
So let’s discuss some of these scenarios on how men test women, from the mini-tests early on to the final “cold feet” tests later.
1. He will test your level of enthusiasm for his hobbies and interests.
No, of course you’re not expected to be as big a sports fanatic as he is, or know just as much about bird-watching as the Maestro. BUT the real test is whether you take an interest in his hobbies. If you do, he will take this as a sign that even if you don’t’ quite “get” his hobbies, you enjoy spending time with him and will thus educate yourself on this little world he enjoys being a part of.
2. Men test your sarcasm thermometer.
A lot of guys will be sarcastic early on in the date and say things that seem shocking, bizarre or confusing just to see if you “get” their reaction. If you get offended or seem genuinely confused, you might lose points because it’s one of the ways men test women. If what he says seems unusual, play along with him and determine if he’s joking. He usually cracks up laughing within seconds. Overall, he just wants to see if you have a good sense of humor.
3. He will test your personality by asking a lot of questions about music, movies, books and so on.
Since guys are logical to a fault, they tend to gauge your intelligence on the entertainment and literature you enjoy. While it’s not exactly fair (I mean some of us just happen to think The Princess Bride is a better movie than Fight Club, right?) it’s something they do, so you might as well prepare for that conversation. A man will be impressed if you provide a logical reason on why you like a particular song or band—perhaps you associate that song with good memories in your life. Men’s minds tend to be analytical and they find the reasons for liking something fascinating.
4. He will test your sense of adventure and daring.
In the early dating stages, men tend to be brattier and more daring—which explains why they may choose a date setting that’s outside your element. They think this will give them insight into who you are. So if you accept their challenge, will you show yourself as a fun and care-free partner? Or will you complain, freak out, be rude to his friends, and exhibit other negative behaviors? This is the test he’s throwing at you, to see how well you handle new experiences. It’s important to him, because he’s basically telling you now, living with him might be unpredictable.
5. He will test your sense of family.
If a man introduces you to his parents, it’s really not a big deal (unless it’s the first date or something). The only way it’s a big deal is if YOU have a problem with it. A man’s family will always be near to his heart. Will you accept them, even if they’re goofy or a tad difficult to get to know? Or will you simply accept them as a part of your boyfriend’s life? This is a test to see how you react to seeing this softer side of him.
6. He’ll ask hypothetical questions.
A man will often play harmless “would you rather?” games just to see what you’d say. Pay attention to these questions. He’s testing your open-mindedness with these questions, more than so he’s actually analyzing your answers. He simply wants to know that he can throw weird questions at you and you won’t freak out or think he’s insane. It’s actually very common among younger singles who want to talk about deep stuff and challenge their partner (without actually resorting to mind games). He just expects you to be playful and to follow his mind wherever it goes.
7. He will test your tolerance for his independence.
This may be the single most important test he pulls on you. All men desire some degree of independence. The more successful he is, the more stubborn he is, rest assured the more privacy he needs, the more “silent support” he expects. This isn’t about you being subservient to him, not at all. It simply means that you allow him the independence he craves, while also remaining independent yourself.
You solve your problems, he solves his. When he needs time alone, you give that to him. When he says he wants to take a break, you let him. (And that doesn’t mean you have to accept him back if and when he returns. He has to earn your trust all over again) Simply put, a man will always want some independence in his life and this FUELS his ego, his self-confidence, his libido, and his sense of worth. Give him that because this is what makes him happy…along with your support.
As you can see, men do frequently test women, but deep down all they really want to know is that you understand him, don’t want to change him, and support him to the very end. If you can remember that you will never be alone in life!
Why Men Test Women
One of the reasons why men test women is to determine their level of confidence and self-respect. Men want to be with a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, and who knows her own worth. If a man feels like a woman doesn’t value herself enough, he may test her to see how far he can push her before she pushes back.
Another reason why men test women is to see how interested they are in him. Men want to be with a woman who is genuinely interested in getting to know him, and who is willing to put in the effort to make the relationship work. If a man feels like a woman is only interested in him for superficial reasons, he may test her to see if she is willing to invest time and energy into the relationship.
Men may also test women to see how well they handle pressure and stress. If a man is looking for a long-term relationship, he wants to be with a woman who can handle difficult situations with grace and composure. By testing a woman’s ability to handle pressure, he can get a sense of whether or not she has the emotional maturity to handle the challenges that come with a serious relationship.
How to Pass His Tests
If you find yourself being tested by a man, there are a few things you can do to pass his tests and demonstrate your value as a partner.
First, it’s important to stay calm and composed, even if you feel like the man is pushing your buttons. Remember that he is testing you because he wants to see how you handle pressure, so staying cool and collected is a great way to demonstrate your emotional maturity.
Second, be confident in yourself and your worth as a partner. If a man is testing you to see if you value yourself, show him that you do by setting clear boundaries and standing up for yourself when necessary. Don’t be afraid to communicate your needs and expectations, and be willing to walk away if a man is not treating you with the respect and dignity you deserve.
Finally, be interested in the man and his life. Show him that you are genuinely interested in getting to know him as a person, and that you are willing to put in the effort to build a meaningful relationship. Ask him questions about his life, listen to his answers, and share your own thoughts and experiences.
Should You Deal With a Man Who Tests You?
Whether or not you should deal with a man who tests you depends on a few factors, including your own values and priorities, and the nature of the tests he is giving you.
If a man is testing you in a way that is disrespectful or harmful, it’s important to set clear boundaries and communicate your expectations. If he continues to test you despite your objections, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider whether or not it is healthy for you.
On the other hand, if a man is testing you in a way that is meant to build trust and deepen the relationship, it may be worth working through the tests and demonstrating your value as a partner. Remember that relationships require effort and investment from both partners, and sometimes that investment includes passing tests and demonstrating your commitment to the relationship.
Ultimately, the decision to deal with a man who tests you is a personal one that depends on your own values, priorities, and goals. By staying true to yourself and your needs, you can make the best decision for yourself and your future.
Final Thought on When Men Test The Relationship
As you can see, men do frequently test women, but deep down all they really want to know is that you understand him, don’t want to change him, and support him to the very end. If you can remember that you will never be alone in life!
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